WDYT of this...just curious

monchichi

I'm a teacher, DH is an engineer.  School was cancelled today so I'm home with the kids.  I was up super early checking the closure list, then making my phone tree calls, THEN hitting snooze every 7 minutes and telling DH what time it is (he is a horribly heavy sleeper and literally doesn't wake up, so I don't mind doing this).  

Anyway, DH left for work around 7:15 and I got up right after that with the kids.  After trying the roads, he decided to use one of his two unspoken for vacation days. Cool, I like it when we're all home.  BUT, he walked in the door and went right to bed!  I asked what he was doing and he said, "Well, I'm using a vacation day so I want to sleep in.  I might as well just go back to work if I can't!" 

Ok, what are your thoughts on this?  No big deal? He is actually a very good person and father (no matter what I might vent here sometimes), but this took me aback a little bit.  At first I was ticked, then I was kind of understanding because he works A LOT and will be out shoveling 10 inches of snow later, and now I'm back to being ticked again.  I mean, when do *I* get a vacation day where someone else watches the kids? 

Is what he did totally messed up? I need validation on how mad I should be:) 

amiamish

My DH would do the same thing. And yes- it pisses me off, but... I just make him take care of DS later at some point in the day while I take a nap.

knmommy

I would be annoyed.  When he gets up tell him you are going to take a nap.  (I know easier said than done)

femmegem

When he gets up, have him take the kids for awhile. My DH is totally useless in the mornings so this is something that would happen in our house, too. I just try to get some me time in, too, when he does that.

shouldbworkin

Yeah, we'd be having a little talk about how I'm not the babysitters.  I get it, though, he's great in every other way.  I'm sure I have my down sides for MH too.  We have a rule about how late you can sleep in (since I never do), so as long as he was up at a decent time and let me nap later, I mgiht not make a big deal out of it.  I would just point out that you're both parents and responsible in these situations, not just one of you.

KoriBrett

meh, just make sure you do a trade later today so you can take a nap or a bubblebath or something.

mauceddie

This weekend, take a 'vacation day' yourself. Dh takes the kids so you can sleep in.

DandelionMom

DH and I take turns with this sort of thing so it wouldn't bother me.  But if he was always the one who slept in, I'd send the kids in to jump on daddy. 

kellilea

Hellstotheno...he's taken a vacation day from his work not his family. 

Personally, I'd be furious but I have sleep issues.  GL!

isabella22

His attitude is what would piss me off.  Did he really say: "Well, I'm using a vacation day so I want to sleep in.  I might as well just go back to work if I can't!"????

If he came home and said 'I am freaking exhausted, do you care if I go back to bed for an hour so we can all enjoy the rest of the day?  Then I would be fine.

But that attitude?  Yeah, I would be mad, if he can't sleep he might as well go to work???

jerseysunrays

I think it's pretty messed up. 

People don't get a "vacation day" from their kids unless they go on vacation w/o their kids IMO. 

I'm a WHAM/SHAM (I work at night and during naps) and the other night right before bed DH said "I took a personal day tomorrow, but I'm not going to be around because I'll be running errands and getting my hair cut". WTF? When do I get to have a personal day and not be around? When do I get to run ANY errand kid free?

 If he would have just let me know what he was up to w/o just throwing it out there like and FYI it would have been fine.

This prompted a conversation between DH and I about awareness of the others time/schedule. 

He came home in the early afternoon and I got to nap because of it.

I think you have the potential to turn it into a big thing if you want to spend the energy. 

 

Littlejen22

Yeah that would piss me off.  When he wakes up tell him that it is your day off too so you are going to nap!  My DH does things like that too, well not that blatant but he will lay on the couch and just go to sleep, um, ok, I guess I will take care of the kids while you pretend to be involved b/c you are in the same room!  Guys suck.