S/O godparents

marbear81

I am SO torn about this myself.. with who to choose

long story short.. we have a set of godparents that I know will be just perfect.. it's a friend of mine and DH's.. DH is an only child so we don't have a sibling of his to honor.. as for me.. I have a brother who is recently married.. my brother and I have never been close.. in fact, there is some beef between us but I've been trying to be the bigger person and leave the past as the past and move on, especially now that we are becoming parents.. I had him in my wedding yet I was never asked to be in his wedding.. my question is... do you think I should have him and my SIL be the other set of godparents for our kiddos? I think it's the "right thing to do" since he is family and all and I doubt we will have any more babies... but I just can't imagine swallowing my pride and asking them because we SO are not close.... I don't know what to do!

@ri&Vic

I completely understand wanting to go with family but you have to keep in mind blood is not the only thing that can make you family.Thats like stating that every person is a parent which that's not necessarily true. LOL.

I would go with the friends who you think are perfect. I would sit them down and talk to them. If you and your brother are not that close then I don't think it would be that big of a deal to him if you didn't "choose" him.

I am seven yrs younger than my brother and five yrs younger than my sister, we are not close but they are. When we decided to go with friends neither one of them said anything about it. I don't think it ever crossed their minds that it would be one of them. So I wouldn't stress it. GL

Leigh71

I think it would be really wonderful to ask your brother/SIL to be Godparents.

My sister has 4 kids....and never asked me to be a godmother to any of my nieces or nephew.  It really crushed me.  I am very, very close with all 4 of her children and I would have been honored to have been asked.

I know what you mean about family stuff.  My mother doesn't even know I am pregnant right now.  She is immature (for lack of a better word) and hasn't called me since Christmas.  we have a guest room just for her, and her own private bath.  I treat her like a queen when she visits.  I love her because she is my mom, but I don't 'like' her.  I am trying to be the bigger person...and if she ever gets off her rear to call me I will share our news with her.  relatives!!!

marbear81

Leigh71:

I think it would be really wonderful to ask your brother/SIL to be Godparents.

My sister has 4 kids....and never asked me to be a godmother to any of my nieces or nephew.  It really crushed me.  I am very, very close with all 4 of her children and I would have been honored to have been asked.

I know what you mean about family stuff.  My mother doesn't even know I am pregnant right now.  She is immature (for lack of a better word) and hasn't called me since Christmas.  we have a guest room just for her, and her own private bath.  I treat her like a queen when she visits.  I love her because she is my mom, but I don't 'like' her.  I am trying to be the bigger person...and if she ever gets off her rear to call me I will share our news with her.  relatives!!!

family is not always easy to deal with.. that's for sure.. I was really crushed when my brother passed me up to be part of his wedding yet asked our cousin to be his best man.. that really hurt and still does! especially since both him and my SIL were in our wedding.. so I guess I should learn.. and if we do ask them to be godparents that they prob will not do the same.. which is hard but something that I need to be ok with..

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for us it was more about the Godparents actually being Christian and caring about the religious aspects of their role- not just someone to honor with the title.  We did want to go with family- because we know over time friends often change... thankfully we both have big enough families that we were able to pick family for all 3 of our boys --- with at least one person in the couple being quite religious and really taking the role seriously.

FemmeNat01

We didn't choose family because we know family will always have a special bond with the twins.

We chose my best friend and his best friend for godparents. We are certain they will be a great role model and take an active role in their lives.

angelnscrubs7

I went back and forth about who "I" thought should be the godparents for the boys. We wanted to take 2 from each side whether it be family or "so-close-they-are-like-family" friends. For a while, I was not thrilled about one of the choices we had, due to family dynamics and what not. I know from personal experience, that just because someone is a sibling or close family member, doesn't mean that person is going to stay in your child's life forever. And yes, the godparent should be chosed based on them sharing the same religious beliefs as you do, so that they can help your child grow in faith. I also know that in our families, some people just automatically assume that they are going to be chosen because of who they are in relation.

One thing I realized is that while the people you choose to be godparents are there to help raise your child in Christ, that doesn't mean that those are the same ones you are going to ask to raise your children, God forbid, something would happen to you or your spouse.