Vent from an Underappreciated SAHW

christiecrofford

Why am I starting to feel like this post has turned into an all-out battle of who does more than the other in a day? "Oh yeah?! Well I work 100 hours a week in a sweat shop, am a full-time med student studying to be a surgeon, run a freakin' kennel out of my backyard, have 5 kids all under the age of 10, eat nails for breakfast, AND I fold my own laundry!"

Geesh.

Mrs.Lucan

christiecrofford:

Why am I starting to feel like this post has turned into an all-out battle of who does more than the other in a day? "Oh yeah?! Well I work 100 hours a week in a sweat shop, am a full-time med student studying to be a surgeon, run a freakin' kennel out of my backyard, have 5 kids all under the age of 10, eat nails for breakfast, AND I fold my own laundry!"

Geesh.

Love it.

OP, I get what you're saying. Not that you do a ton, but if you're a SAHW I'm assuming that was partly YH's decision and he is supportive of it, so he shouldn't say things that, whether he realized it or not, are belittling to you.

eowynmn

wordtoyourmother:

Disagree with what?  A married couple being equals or her not allowed to feel under appreciated?

Are you aware of the negative connotations of the term trophy wife?  So by your reading and reasoning of the OP's post this is a "kept" woman (usually some bimbo) married to an affluent man?    If so, I understand it is your opinion but I don't get why the belittlement of the OP. 

No one would laugh at her on the SAHM board.  As the primary care taker of my kid and business owner - I empathize with her situation.  I didn't try to figure out how much more I handle on a daily basis than her. 

It's an issue all of us have faced - feeling under appreciated on some level at home.  That is what the post was all about.  You clearly missed that point.  

 

I disagreed that she should go to a SAHM board (I thought that was obvious), and you acknowledged understanding in your third "paragraph," and again I disagree.  I'm telling you not all the SAHM would welcome her with rainbows and puppy dogs.

Yes, I'm aware trophy wife is condescending.  Why do you think I used it?  She sounds like a kept wife to me.  Not too bright are you?

Again, Disagree.  I can't say I've ever felt unappreciated by my husband at home.  He's pretty appreciative of everything I do, because I actually do a lot.

 

SunflowerMae

eowynmn:

wordtoyourmother:

Disagree with what?  A married couple being equals or her not allowed to feel under appreciated?

Are you aware of the negative connotations of the term trophy wife?  So by your reading and reasoning of the OP's post this is a "kept" woman (usually some bimbo) married to an affluent man?    If so, I understand it is your opinion but I don't get why the belittlement of the OP. 

No one would laugh at her on the SAHM board.  As the primary care taker of my kid and business owner - I empathize with her situation.  I didn't try to figure out how much more I handle on a daily basis than her. 

It's an issue all of us have faced - feeling under appreciated on some level at home.  That is what the post was all about.  You clearly missed that point.  

 

I disagreed that she should go to a SAHM board (I thought that was obvious), and you acknowledged understanding in your third "paragraph," and again I disagree.  I'm telling you not all the SAHM would welcome her with rainbows and puppy dogs.

Yes, I'm aware trophy wife is condescending.  Why do you think I used it?  She sounds like a kept wife to me.  Not too bright are you?

Again, Disagree.  I can't say I've ever felt unappreciated by my husband at home.  He's pretty appreciative of everything I do, because I actually do a lot.

 

Eowymn-- you seem really emotionally attached to this post.  Are you sure you don't have some pre-existing disposition against the OP?  You've posted like 10 times on this topic, continually trying to make the OP sound bad when really, the information/evidence to support your negative opinions just isn't there.

The OP revealed very little information about herself.  I really doubt anyone else agrees that she sounds like a trophy wife.  The only information we know about her is that she isn't currently working and cleans well.  And to me, that doesn't equal trophy wife. 

You keep coming back to this post, insisting the OP is a terrible person and countering anyone who says they relate to her.  I'm just confused as to why you care so much about this post?

eowynmn

SunflowerMae:

Eowymn-- you seem really emotionally attached to this post.  Are you sure you don't have some pre-existing disposition against the OP?  You've posted like 10 times on this topic, continually trying to make the OP sound bad when really, the information/evidence to support your negative opinions just isn't there.

The OP revealed very little information about herself.  I really doubt anyone else agrees that she sounds like a trophy wife.  The only information we know about her is that she isn't currently working and cleans well.  And to me, that doesn't equal trophy wife. 

You keep coming back to this post, insisting the OP is a terrible person and countering anyone who says they relate to her.  I'm just confused as to why you care so much about this post?

 

Well, it just so happens that the OP and I used to get together for a little mwmw action, and now...now she wants nothing to do with me because she's too busy getting her nails did and cleaning the house 3x a week, and I'm lonely, and I miss her tender touch.

Or, it's the most amusing post on this godforsaken board and it keeps popping to the top when people respond to it.

Choose whichever answer makes you happy.