Update on birthmom

Sally J

My DD's birthmom is my sister.  I just found out that she is in jail again for drug charges and she's pregnant!  My guess is she will be in jail for the duration of her pregnancy and there is a high chance of losing her rights again.

Not sure if I would be open to taking my DD's sibling or not.  I'm not sure I want more children (and if I do, I am adamant about experiencing pregnancy again), plus I'm still struggling with the complexity that adopting Charlotte has introduced to our family dynamics (very confusing who is who roles in our family now).  I know it sounds terrible of me to say, since none of this would be the baby's fault, but I know it's important for me to be honest about my feelings.

I've asked Charlotte's foster family if they would consider having the child placed with them since we see them as extended family.  Argh...so mad at my sister!!  She was doing so well too. 

CaptainSerious

I'm so sorry, Sally!  I'm sorry that your sister is in this predicament, and that you now feel some sort of responsibility to make sure her child is taken care of, since it is your daughter's sister and your niece.

You're sister's actions place you in a very unfair position.  Whatever you decide, please be honest with yourself about how you see your family growing (or not), and don't feel the slightest bit of guilt for any decision you make in good faith with your and your family's best interest at heart.

foundmylazybum

CaptainSerious:

I'm so sorry, Sally!  I'm sorry that your sister is in this predicament, and that you now feel some sort of responsibility to make sure her child is taken care of, since it is your daughter's sister and your niece.

You're sister's actions place you in a very unfair position.  Whatever you decide, please be honest with yourself about how you see your family growing (or not), and don't feel the slightest bit of guilt for any decision you make in good faith with your and your family's best interest at heart.

Ohhh...I'm sorry to hear about this Sally. It makes me sad to hear that your sister was doing really well but is now struggling again--and has brought another little person into the mix

I completely agree with Captain and I think she said it really well :::hugs::: 

GBCK

I"m sorry.

That's hard.

pepomntpat

I am sorry your family is going through this.  I do not think there is anything wrong with you not wanting to add another child to your family and you should not feel guilty about that decision. I will keep you all in my prayers.

GLynn2009

Sooooooo sorry. I fear this happening to us also............. I am glad that you are able to think about this and not have to make a quick decision that you would later regret. Best of luck in what ever you decide.