Ugh, my friend strikes again. She is the only one I have to walk on

winery

Eggshells around.

I know I'm going to type this out and wonder why I keep her as a friend, but the answer is because she's in my group and, because I have issues, I like to make sure that other people are happy, blah blah blah.

But I got another, my second, long message about something else I'd done wrong.  This time she's upset because after her son came home from the hospital, I didn't call her or email her to ask how they were.  And she needs to get this off of her chest so it doesn't eat at her, but she doesn't understand why I couldn't call because she had the worst week of her life and didn't do well and I should have called or at least emailed. 

And so forth in that vein....

It was at least a 6 minute long message about what a horrible friend I was for not calling. 

Though I sent balloons, and offered to make her dinner.  And MH got an update from her husband about her son.  Frankly, sometimes when you're recovering from stuff, you just want to be left alone.

But, you know, I'm tired of always feeling like I did something wrong when I talk to this woman.  She teases me about my "fancy phone" because I rarely answer it; "you never answer that fancy phone of yours!".

I'm kind of over it.

I didn't get upset when she didn't contact me for 4 weeks after I had surgery to make sure I was okay.  And so on.  I just don't have that kind of energy.

But I'm seriously thinking of telling her that maybe she should stop being friends with me since I can never answer her emails timely enough, or I don't call when I'm apparently supposed to. 

She's kind of ruined my afternoon with a message scolding me about my behavior. 

amiamish

Hmm... I would just slowly back away from her but keep your eye on her at all times-she may pounce when you least expect it. Seriously, stop hanging out with her, she sounds needy/clingy/weird.

 

BTW I posted on your wall.

kittycarr

Then ruin hers right back by doing what your next to last paragraph says.  I would.  It will do one of two things - make her leave you the hell alone or it will wake her stupid ass up.

Dougsgirl4ever

kittycarr:

Then ruin hers right back by doing what your next to last paragraph says.  I would.  It will do one of two things - make her leave you the hell alone or it will wake her stupid ass up.

This ~ I know it suck because your husband is friends with hers but if it is getting to you that bad I would say oh well see you later.

Hooray2005

"I'm sorry to hear you felt that way, and do hope your son is doing well.  It seems like my best efforts just aren't able to meet your friendship needs right now.  In an effort to not disappoint you further, perhaps we should redefine how you and I spend time together, so we are both clear on expectations.  If we aren't able to come to an agreement on what our friendship should look like, perhaps we should take a break from it."

Blech.  It's so much easier to break up with a boyfriend   It's her issue, though, yours. (((hugs)))