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Goldiloch

A friend just found out today that her baby stopped growing. She was about 10 weeks pregnant. She lost her previous pregnancy at about 10 weeks also.

I don't know what to do for her. Last time I sent her and her husband a gift card to a restaurant, but they won't use it unless we go out to dinner with them. (They live 100 miles away and we haven't had the chance to go to dinner with them yet.) I want to get something/do something for them, but don't know what. Flowers seem sort of inappropriate for this type of thing. 

Has anyone here experienced this? Is there anything we can do for them? (I don't want to post this on the loss board out of respect for the ladies there since I am pregnant.) 

AmyLovesEddie14

So sorry to hear that. T&P for your friend and her family. Do they have edible creations in her area? My cousin lost her husband and we sent them one of these. They loved it.

MyLilBean

That is so sad =( 

I don't know what advice to give as I don't know anyone who's gone through a loss..

sassafras007

I would wait until they are ready for something give them some time... I lost my last baby at 10 weeks and people sending things only made it worse...

GTBrideKC

You are a good friend for thinking of her so much.  I've had two losses and it's an incredibly difficult pain to understand.  I had friends send me thoughtful cards, some sent flowers and a couple sent me packages that had goodies to take my mind off the m/c.  One package had all 4 Twilight series books and definitely was a good distraction. 

I appreciated everything, it helped to know people were thinking of us. 

prego760

I gave my dear friend a Loss Necklace that she sincerely treasures.

https://www.labelledame.com/miscarriage-infant-loss.html

 

NFL_Wife

I'm so sorry for your friend. I don't have any advice as I've never suffered a loss, but I think the other replies are great ideas.

sassafras007

prego760:

I gave my dear friend a Loss Necklace that she sincerely treasures.

https://www.labelledame.com/miscarriage-infant-loss.html

 

I have one of these too but I bought it for myself.

rubbaduck

That is really sad. I lost a twin at 9 weeks. Didn't tell anyone though except my mom, MIL, and my best friend. Sometimes you don't need gifts, you just need to talk about it. Or if you're like me, you deal with it with your DH. Must be even harder for her since you're pregnant, so there might not be too much you can do.

PurpleK26

If they won't use a gift card unless you are with them, then send them some Schwan's meals or something. After my loss (13 weeks) I didn't want to cook for weeks afterwards.

A GC to a massage or something else would be nice too.

The most important thing is to just keep talking to her and not forget her babies. 

sarahmae8

That is really sad. If I were your friend I would just want the company so maybe it's time to plan that dinner. Something to cheer her up.

Erourke

Thats terrible, im sorry to hear that. Ive lost 4 pregnancies, all before 7 weeks. I am not sure how appropriate it is to send a gift. A nice card would suffice. Gifts are for celebration if you ask me.

LeighAnn&Vinny

I experienced my loss at 8.5 weeks. Everyone is different so that makes answering this question hard. I  made it very clear that I didn't want people calling because I was not able to talk about it for sometime. what I did enjoy was actually people sending flowers. I love fresh flowers so seeing them around the house actually was very theraputic for me. I would have also appreciated an edible arrangement or food. If DH didn't make sure that I ate something I probably wouldn't. If there was food aruond to pick on, I did. I didn't leave the house for a week and I certainly wasn't up for preparing meals.

Bhobbsdz

www.winecountrygiftbaskets.com

 These are affordable and they all don't include wine.  I just sent a sympathy basket to a sorority sister of mine yesterday that lost her husband over the weekend.  I am sorry to hear about your friend.  

Goldiloch

Thank you all for your advice.

To those who have experienced a loss, I am so sorry. I cannot fathom how painful it must be to lose a baby.
 

missyjg

I've had several miscarriages, 2 late losses, and out of anything that anyone did.... My father got me a necklace that had a stone for each child and it said "never forgotten". I wear it every day and it's always close to my heart. Otherwise, just be there when she wants to talk and give her space if she needs it (due to the fact that you're pregnant and most likely a painful reminder for her). Good luck!