Totally Flammable: Going to have "the talk" with OB tomorrow

TXTwisterBabe

PurpleK26:

I'd talk to them about doing it at 39 weeks. Just FYI, some insurance companies won't cover any elective c/s or induction before that time. If LO is good, strong and developed, I see no problem with it, and if you're dr.s are the type who are more concerned with keeping a schedule, they may really be open to it.

Really?  This is just for you Anne...

 

bump54321

soko987:

PurpleK26:

I'd talk to them about doing it at 39 weeks. Just FYI, some insurance companies won't cover any elective c/s or induction before that time. If LO is good, strong and developed, I see no problem with it, and if you're dr.s are the type who are more concerned with keeping a schedule, they may really be open to it.

::Headdesk::

 

 

 

This.  Seriously.  My head is starting to hurt.

TXTwisterBabe

pinktea:

Do what you feel is right but I must share that an induction doesn't automatically mean u will be in horrific pain for hours, then end up having the csec anyway.  I had a super positive induction experience, was only in pain for like 1 hour before I got my epi and had DD 4 hours after starting the pitocin, and just keep in mind the after effects of the csec, won't be able to reach down and pick up LO for a few days, milk coming in and BFing will be alot tougher, on top of having a preemie which makes it hard already, plus all the pain of recovery from surgery, again it's ur decision and no flames, just don't want you to think that induction automatically means long agonizing labor, because most of the time it's not.

Yeah but what she is saying is that her docs doubt her body will be ready at 35 weeks.  They are giving her a VERY short time to progress before they go to the c-sect anyway.

C'mon folks...why am I even explaining this?

hollybabe

jsmott76:

To the first 3 responders:  Obviously you guys have not been keeping up with what's going on with Annie. 

ETA:  And to the other's after the first three with similar sentiments.  LOL!  Also, it should be noted that she's already gotten steroid shots for baby's lungs in preparation for the early delivery.

Yeah, you're right.  I haven't been keeping tabs on the blow by blow account of anyone's pregnancy.   My bad.  Just going by the OP, it sounded like she wanted an elective c/s at 35 weeks for some reason related to her anxiety disorder.

 

bump54321

TXTwisterBabe:

pinktea:

Do what you feel is right but I must share that an induction doesn't automatically mean u will be in horrific pain for hours, then end up having the csec anyway.  I had a super positive induction experience, was only in pain for like 1 hour before I got my epi and had DD 4 hours after starting the pitocin, and just keep in mind the after effects of the csec, won't be able to reach down and pick up LO for a few days, milk coming in and BFing will be alot tougher, on top of having a preemie which makes it hard already, plus all the pain of recovery from surgery, again it's ur decision and no flames, just don't want you to think that induction automatically means long agonizing labor, because most of the time it's not.

Yeah but what she is saying is that her docs doubt her body will be ready at 35 weeks.  They are giving her a VERY short time to progress before they go to the c-sect anyway.

C'mon folks...why am I even explaining this?

 

I would answer this, but then I'd get in trouble.....  

ScissorTailedFlycatcher

My delivery wasn't scary at all.

I say go for it if your doc is willing.?

RadicalDreamer143

I think your main concern should be your recovery.  How difficult will it be for you to comfortably recover from a c/s?  Someone mentioned that you didn't have much of a support system - I don't have family nearby, myself - but my DH will be taking off two weeks (possibly three if I c/s and need it), and then I'll have my mother and MIL for a week each (I think if I had a c/s they might actually be helpful... maybe).  I mean yes, hindsight is 20/20, and people who were induced then c/s would of COURSE want to skip the labor process... but it's not 100% that you will end up needing a c/s.

Just something to think about.  And good luck with whichever you choose.

bump54321

hollybabe:

jsmott76:

To the first 3 responders:  Obviously you guys have not been keeping up with what's going on with Annie. 

ETA:  And to the other's after the first three with similar sentiments.  LOL!  Also, it should be noted that she's already gotten steroid shots for baby's lungs in preparation for the early delivery.

Yeah, you're right.  I haven't been keeping tabs on the blow by blow account of anyone's pregnancy.   My bad.  Just going by the OP, it sounded like she wanted an elective c/s at 35 weeks for some reason related to her anxiety disorder.

 

 

Ummmm.......... no, she said that her doctor had already talked to her about inducing at 35 wks.  You didn't read carefully and just took away from it what you wanted.

Aliliv

jsmott76:

hollybabe:

jsmott76:

To the first 3 responders:  Obviously you guys have not been keeping up with what's going on with Annie. 

ETA:  And to the other's after the first three with similar sentiments.  LOL!  Also, it should be noted that she's already gotten steroid shots for baby's lungs in preparation for the early delivery.

Yeah, you're right.  I haven't been keeping tabs on the blow by blow account of anyone's pregnancy.   My bad.  Just going by the OP, it sounded like she wanted an elective c/s at 35 weeks for some reason related to her anxiety disorder.

 

 

Ummmm.......... no, she said that her doctor had already talked to her about inducing at 35 wks.  You didn't read carefully and just took away from it what you wanted.

Actually....no.  She said that they will be talking about inducing/scheduling induction at 35 weeks.  Which, can mean one of two things - incuding when she is 35 weeks or talking about scheduling when she is 35 weeks .....Without, knowing previous history it is very hard to infer exactly what OP is referring to.   Of course, it's glaringly obvious to those who know the history, but not to those who don't.    Of course, OP was awesome enough to clarify after a few responses (which I also replied to).    So, jump on all the the posters who didn't know this history before OP posted the clarification all you want, but it doesn't solve anything.   I really hope that everything goes well for OP!!!

lulupinkerton

TXTwisterBabe:

PurpleK26:

I'd talk to them about doing it at 39 weeks. Just FYI, some insurance companies won't cover any elective c/s or induction before that time. If LO is good, strong and developed, I see no problem with it, and if you're dr.s are the type who are more concerned with keeping a schedule, they may really be open to it.

Really?  This is just for you Anne...

 

Love this!

hollybabe

Aliliv:

jsmott76:

hollybabe:

jsmott76:

To the first 3 responders:  Obviously you guys have not been keeping up with what's going on with Annie. 

ETA:  And to the other's after the first three with similar sentiments.  LOL!  Also, it should be noted that she's already gotten steroid shots for baby's lungs in preparation for the early delivery.

Yeah, you're right.  I haven't been keeping tabs on the blow by blow account of anyone's pregnancy.   My bad.  Just going by the OP, it sounded like she wanted an elective c/s at 35 weeks for some reason related to her anxiety disorder.

 

 

Ummmm.......... no, she said that her doctor had already talked to her about inducing at 35 wks.  You didn't read carefully and just took away from it what you wanted.

Actually....no.  She said that they will be talking about inducing/scheduling induction at 35 weeks.  Which, can mean one of two things - incuding when she is 35 weeks or talking about scheduling when she is 35 weeks .....Without, knowing previous history it is very hard to infer exactly what OP is referring to.  

Word.

bump54321

Aliliv:

jsmott76:

hollybabe:

jsmott76:

To the first 3 responders:  Obviously you guys have not been keeping up with what's going on with Annie. 

ETA:  And to the other's after the first three with similar sentiments.  LOL!  Also, it should be noted that she's already gotten steroid shots for baby's lungs in preparation for the early delivery.

Yeah, you're right.  I haven't been keeping tabs on the blow by blow account of anyone's pregnancy.   My bad.  Just going by the OP, it sounded like she wanted an elective c/s at 35 weeks for some reason related to her anxiety disorder.

 

 

Ummmm.......... no, she said that her doctor had already talked to her about inducing at 35 wks.  You didn't read carefully and just took away from it what you wanted.

Actually....no.  She said that they will be talking about inducing/scheduling induction at 35 weeks.  Which, can mean one of two things - incuding when she is 35 weeks or talking about scheduling when she is 35 weeks .....Without, knowing previous history it is very hard to infer exactly what OP is referring to.   Of course, it's glaringly obvious to those who know the history, but not to those who don't.    Of course, OP was awesome enough to clarify after a few responses (which I also replied to).    So, jump on all the the posters who didn't know this history before OP posted the clarification all you want, but it doesn't solve anything.   I really hope that everything goes well for OP!!!

 

I was writing my response as her clarification was posted.  But those who posted after both her clarification and my response clearly didn't read either one......

 

This is from Annie's OP: "We had discussed it previously, as an abstract "Oh yeah, once you hit 35w 3d we will induce/schedule induction" whatever sort of thing...but I want a plan."

It may not have been clear why in her OP, but she did say it had been previously talked about.

 

You're the only one who went back and replied.  And, the first comment about the "mental issues" was completely unnecessary.   

 

Aliliv

jsmott76:

Aliliv:

jsmott76:

hollybabe:

jsmott76:

To the first 3 responders:  Obviously you guys have not been keeping up with what's going on with Annie. 

ETA:  And to the other's after the first three with similar sentiments.  LOL!  Also, it should be noted that she's already gotten steroid shots for baby's lungs in preparation for the early delivery.

Yeah, you're right.  I haven't been keeping tabs on the blow by blow account of anyone's pregnancy.   My bad.  Just going by the OP, it sounded like she wanted an elective c/s at 35 weeks for some reason related to her anxiety disorder.

 

 

Ummmm.......... no, she said that her doctor had already talked to her about inducing at 35 wks.  You didn't read carefully and just took away from it what you wanted.

Actually....no.  She said that they will be talking about inducing/scheduling induction at 35 weeks.  Which, can mean one of two things - incuding when she is 35 weeks or talking about scheduling when she is 35 weeks .....Without, knowing previous history it is very hard to infer exactly what OP is referring to.   Of course, it's glaringly obvious to those who know the history, but not to those who don't.    Of course, OP was awesome enough to clarify after a few responses (which I also replied to).    So, jump on all the the posters who didn't know this history before OP posted the clarification all you want, but it doesn't solve anything.   I really hope that everything goes well for OP!!!

 

I was writing my response as her clarification was posted.  But those who posted after both her clarification and my response clearly didn't read either one......

 

This is from Annie's OP: "We had discussed it previously, as an abstract "Oh yeah, once you hit 35w 3d we will induce/schedule induction" whatever sort of thing...but I want a plan."

It may not have been clear why in her OP, but she did say it had been previously talked about.

 

You're the only one who went back and replied.  And, the first comment about the "mental issues" was completely unnecessary.   

My first comment about mental issues?  Was that me you are referring to?    Your clarification did give a lot info. and it is good for people to read the responses before replying, that's for sure.... I was finding it a bit much reading them as well, after the clarifications had been posted.   Anyway, my question was if she was prepared for NICU mental anguish (because she was posting on the stress and such that the thought of birth gave her).... I've experienced it first hand (NICU) and had I not, I probably wouldn't even think of it.... it's quite possibly the most awful feeling in the world.....

As for the "it had been previously talked about,"  again....it's not clear how it was talked about.... on the bump?  She was flamed for it previously and doesn't care if she is again?   I literally had no clue about that....  I was truly concerned about the prospects of NICU for her......it is definitely something to prepare oneself for if it is a possibility......

But, anyway, this is all really neither here nor there.   I hope it all works out perfectly:)

AmyLovesEddie14

Aliliv:

jsmott76:

Aliliv:

jsmott76:

hollybabe:

jsmott76:

To the first 3 responders:  Obviously you guys have not been keeping up with what's going on with Annie. 

ETA:  And to the other's after the first three with similar sentiments.  LOL!  Also, it should be noted that she's already gotten steroid shots for baby's lungs in preparation for the early delivery.

Yeah, you're right.  I haven't been keeping tabs on the blow by blow account of anyone's pregnancy.   My bad.  Just going by the OP, it sounded like she wanted an elective c/s at 35 weeks for some reason related to her anxiety disorder.

 

 

Ummmm.......... no, she said that her doctor had already talked to her about inducing at 35 wks.  You didn't read carefully and just took away from it what you wanted.

Actually....no.  She said that they will be talking about inducing/scheduling induction at 35 weeks.  Which, can mean one of two things - incuding when she is 35 weeks or talking about scheduling when she is 35 weeks .....Without, knowing previous history it is very hard to infer exactly what OP is referring to.   Of course, it's glaringly obvious to those who know the history, but not to those who don't.    Of course, OP was awesome enough to clarify after a few responses (which I also replied to).    So, jump on all the the posters who didn't know this history before OP posted the clarification all you want, but it doesn't solve anything.   I really hope that everything goes well for OP!!!

 

I was writing my response as her clarification was posted.  But those who posted after both her clarification and my response clearly didn't read either one......

 

This is from Annie's OP: "We had discussed it previously, as an abstract "Oh yeah, once you hit 35w 3d we will induce/schedule induction" whatever sort of thing...but I want a plan."

It may not have been clear why in her OP, but she did say it had been previously talked about.

 

You're the only one who went back and replied.  And, the first comment about the "mental issues" was completely unnecessary.   

My first comment about mental issues?  Was that me you are referring to?    Your clarification did give a lot info. and it is good for people to read the responses before replying, that's for sure.... I was finding it a bit much reading them as well, after the clarifications had been posted.   Anyway, my question was if she was prepared for NICU mental anguish (because she was posting on the stress and such that the thought of birth gave her).... I've experienced it first hand (NICU) and had I not, I probably wouldn't even think of it.... it's quite possibly the most awful feeling in the world.....

As for the "it had been previously talked about,"  again....it's not clear how it was talked about.... on the bump?  She was flamed for it previously and doesn't care if she is again?   I literally had no clue about that....  I was truly concerned about the prospects of NICU for her......it is definitely something to prepare oneself for if it is a possibility......

But, anyway, this is all really neither here nor there.   I hope it all works out perfectly:)

No, not your first comment. The first comment of the post. Someone said something about her "mental health issues".

Athena5692

I would definitely bring it up with the doctor tomorrow.  Like some pp's have said, the worst he can say is no.  However, if he does say no, ask for an explanation so you know he's not overlooking the risk of pre-e and PIH.  Hopefully that can put your mind at ease (a little).

Good Luck!!

islandgirl79

Wow-some of you ladies are sure nit picky! 

Someone mentioned being an advocate for yourself, that is definitely right.  No one else will be!  Maybe practice saying everything out loud.  And remember, you probably will never see this doctor again after you give birth so who cares what he/she thinks?? 

Good luck!

bump54321

AmyLovesEddie14:

Aliliv:

jsmott76:

Aliliv:

jsmott76:

hollybabe:

jsmott76:

To the first 3 responders:  Obviously you guys have not been keeping up with what's going on with Annie. 

ETA:  And to the other's after the first three with similar sentiments.  LOL!  Also, it should be noted that she's already gotten steroid shots for baby's lungs in preparation for the early delivery.

Yeah, you're right.  I haven't been keeping tabs on the blow by blow account of anyone's pregnancy.   My bad.  Just going by the OP, it sounded like she wanted an elective c/s at 35 weeks for some reason related to her anxiety disorder.

 

 

Ummmm.......... no, she said that her doctor had already talked to her about inducing at 35 wks.  You didn't read carefully and just took away from it what you wanted.

Actually....no.  She said that they will be talking about inducing/scheduling induction at 35 weeks.  Which, can mean one of two things - incuding when she is 35 weeks or talking about scheduling when she is 35 weeks .....Without, knowing previous history it is very hard to infer exactly what OP is referring to.   Of course, it's glaringly obvious to those who know the history, but not to those who don't.    Of course, OP was awesome enough to clarify after a few responses (which I also replied to).    So, jump on all the the posters who didn't know this history before OP posted the clarification all you want, but it doesn't solve anything.   I really hope that everything goes well for OP!!!

 

I was writing my response as her clarification was posted.  But those who posted after both her clarification and my response clearly didn't read either one......

 

This is from Annie's OP: "We had discussed it previously, as an abstract "Oh yeah, once you hit 35w 3d we will induce/schedule induction" whatever sort of thing...but I want a plan."

It may not have been clear why in her OP, but she did say it had been previously talked about.

 

You're the only one who went back and replied.  And, the first comment about the "mental issues" was completely unnecessary.   

My first comment about mental issues?  Was that me you are referring to?    Your clarification did give a lot info. and it is good for people to read the responses before replying, that's for sure.... I was finding it a bit much reading them as well, after the clarifications had been posted.   Anyway, my question was if she was prepared for NICU mental anguish (because she was posting on the stress and such that the thought of birth gave her).... I've experienced it first hand (NICU) and had I not, I probably wouldn't even think of it.... it's quite possibly the most awful feeling in the world.....

As for the "it had been previously talked about,"  again....it's not clear how it was talked about.... on the bump?  She was flamed for it previously and doesn't care if she is again?   I literally had no clue about that....  I was truly concerned about the prospects of NICU for her......it is definitely something to prepare oneself for if it is a possibility......

But, anyway, this is all really neither here nor there.   I hope it all works out perfectly:)

No, not your first comment. The first comment of the post. Someone said something about her "mental health issues".

 

This.

NastyAnnie

Whew! This is why I shouldn't post and run. Thankfully there are lots of bumpies who do know my story, so they can handle the torch bearers in my absence.

To be clear: My practice has already stated that once I reach the 35w 3d mark, induction will happen. It has yet to be scheduled, and I do not know if they mean that day, that week, whatever... It is yet to be determined at this point.

It's true.. my support system here is very limited. We plan to have folks here in town for a couple of days, but that's it, and we may not even get baby home before they leave.

Also, the mental issues thing is okay; I am the one that brought it up, and I don't have an issue discussing it. Yes, the thought of an NICU stay scares the fvck out of me. I have no clue how I'll handle it, except that I will do what I have to for the Hitchhiker. That being said, we have gotten 4 rounds of steroids (OW!) and he does seem to be older than originally thought, so that leaves me with a sense of peace at least.

My anxiety is generally based on things that I cannot prepare for. If I could know that I'd have a successful induction ending in vaginal birth, I'd 100% choose that route. The thing is... at 35w, or 36, or even 37... an induction without any cervical progress is likely to fail, and since I have high BP they won't give me much of a chance to begin progressing anyway. So, knowing that I go in with more than a 50% chance of having a C-Section (actually, my NP at the last appointment said she guessed somewhere around 80%) I'd rather just schedule it and be able to prepare, mentally, for just that...

Thanks for all of your input ladies. I knew if I could face the torches on the bump, the Weight Nazi wouldn't be an issue.