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S/O homework, do you help them do it or make sure they do it
My children already get homework, crazy I know, I have yet to do their homework for them and will not let Kalie do the boys, (she would do theirs every week if I let them) I sit with the three of them at the table during homework time and they do their own work, they can ask me questions and I will help them work through it but I refuse to do it for them.
One of their teachers told me at the first parent/teacher conference that it was obvious that I was one of the few parents who did not do their children's homework and that she appreciated that I did not do it.
I was surprised that so many parents would do their child's homework, especially in K.
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Re: S/O homework, do you help them do it or make sure they do it
We help Natalie to understand the instructions then she takes it from there. Some stuff she already knows how to do and she flies through it (she is quite a math whizz). However, she tends to rush when writing out words so oftentimes I have her erase and do them over. She does it at the kitchen table after dinner so we are around cleaning up from dinner but we are not sitting with her. I would never do her homework for her that's just stupid.
Owen's homework is really simple (he's in pre-k) and he can do it on his own...it's only 2 pages a week.
I usually get dinner going while DS does his homework. I do check it and depending on what kind of homework, I'll either circle the math problem that is wrong (and he'll have to do it over again) or tell him something isn't right with the grammar homework. If he can't figure it out, we sit down together and work it out.
One of their homework assignments is to draw five pictures each week and write the word of the picture under it. They have to draw the pictures associated with the letter of the week.
For example this week Doug's letter is V, so he has to come up with five words he can draw pictures of that starts with the letter V. I will sit down and we will talk about the letter V, I will ask him to help me name five words (this is going to be a hard one this week) as he names of his words he draws the picture and then I ask him to sound it out for me and spell it. He then writes it down how he spelled it. (the teachers have asked us not to correct the spelling) Same thing for the other two
With Math, they get saxton math sheets once a week, they have to fill in missing numbers and do simple addition and subtraction. With this I have a thing of pick up sticks. and if they do not know the answer I will let them line up the pick up sticks and either add to or remove some to get the answers. For example nine plus nine. They lay out in a row nine pick up sticks and under neath will line up nine more and then count them.
If they get it wrong the first time I will ask them to count again, after that I do not correct them.
They have to all three read me a book every week, phoneics book, I read it to them on Sunday night (as instructed by the teachers) then on Monday they have to read it to me. I make flash cards of the words they miss and we go over those. On Friday they have to read the book to the teacher without missing any words.
DDs do their own homework. After they have a snack and run around for a few minutes they're expected to sit down and get their work done before they can start something else. I stay near the kitchen if they need help with anything.
So should you check it after they do it or not?
My friend's 12 year old does all her own HW but they check it and point out what problems she might want to double check. I wonder if that is good or bad.
It does not seem that way. I know it would be easier for me to just do it, but there is no way I am going to do their work for them. I want independent children who know what when they are responsible for their own work.
You should ask the teacher if they expect you to correct the homework. DD's teachers expect parents to check that the work is done (and they we initial the kid's daily planner) and sometimes we're supposed to correct the work (and we are supposed to sign the actual paper on those assignments).
Erin's "homework" is actually designed to be a family-involved reinforcement of what they're learning in class. It usually comes home Thursday and is due back the next day. Some examples are counting things in the house or having her tell us a story with props she made at school. The kids also get a pretty open-ended family art project to do once a month- they hang them in the hallway. Oh, she's also bringing home her Guided Reading books every night now, so we read those daily (although we read every night, anyway, so no big difference there).
So, the short answer is yes, we help with homework since that's how the teacher meant for the kids to do it. I won't ever do homework for my kids, though.
That is a tough one. I think I would check it once and let them know that they need to look over it again before turning it in (especially at that age) but I am not sure I would tell them which ones are wrong, (of course if the homework consisted of 25 math problems I may indicate which lines have wrong answers) I think having them determine what is wrong will help them learn the answer.
Their teachers indicate when they want us to correct the work for them, for the most part at the start of the school year that is the direction they gave me