I can't stop thinking about how this child is going to get out! I can't wait to meet our little girl, but I'd be ok if she just stayed in there forever, rather than having to deliver her.
I am TERRIFIED of both vaginal or c-section deliveries. Labor scares the crap out of me because of how much discomfort/pain I will have to endure for who knows how long. A c-section scares me because of many reasons, mainly being awake while they cut me open & then having to recover with a newborn.
True story. When we got out BFP, I started to cry, kissed DH & then said "how is it going to get out?!?!"
Re: Is it just me?
The thing is...I'm an OB nurse! I already know just about everything I need to about the process. It's all that knowledge that is getting me! I know what terrible perineal tears look like & how uncomfortable the beds are & all the other things that are just plain unpleasant! I also used to scrub in on c-sectons, so I've had a first hand view of that lovely procedure. I always felt a little guilty when we would stretch the tissue right before getting the baby out.
You know how everyone says "it's worth it"?
That's totally true. I don't think even the easiest labors are a real picnic for anyone, but I HATE pain, was TERRIFIED of childbirth, and had a med-free vaginal birth. And I decided to get pregnant again so it couldn't have been that bad... or maybe I just forgot because in the end, the baby really does make you forget about what it took to get here.
Good luck!
Oh, you're screwed! No, I'm kidding! I've had a 4th degree tear with ds...and I still got pg 2 more times. I'm a sucker. I'm a teacher now, but really would like to be an ob nurse. I already have a master's degree, and I hear that you don't have to take as many classes. Any advice?
You just made me lol!
You would probably only need to take the main nursing & skills classes, probably pharmacology & do your clinicals. Nursing is a very rewarding career & I can't imagine doing anything else. It is crazy stressful sometimes though.
Girls, it time to watch "The business of being born." Its a movie about the birthing process both in a hospital and at home. You can watch it instantly on Netflix and might even be able to rent it at Blockbuster.
Talk to your mothers. Be calm and don't panic. Your body knows what to do. Bring up your fears with your docs/nurses and for the love of god ATTEND SOME BIRTHING CLASSES!!!
You will be ok. Your baby will be OK. Just educate yourself. Forewarned is forearmed.
I think the more you learn about the better you'll be. Obviously you know what goes on in most hospitals, but what about less traditional births? And what about from the perspective of the mother? There are positions that help with labor and the pain. And if you end up with a c/s, you deal with it.
It can be a very natural process so try to not worry about it. Birthing classes will help too.
Can you try to focus on all of the uncomplicated deliveries you've seen? I can't imagine they've all involved massive tearing and screaming like the drama queens on TLC.
I wasn't scared going into L&D the 1st time, aside from worries about getting DS out safely and in good health. I did push really hard when the dr. threatened an episiotomy (so I didn't need one). I can honestly say it wasn't that painful with an epi. The epi didn't hurt at all either, IMO.
I'm a bit more nervous this time with twins and all the possible scenarios, but its gonna happen somehow someway.
Try to envision a positive experience and stick with that. Allow yourself to spend a discreet amount of time worrying, but know there are certain things you have no control over.
In your situation, I doubt watching "the business of being born" is going to help things!
Agreed. I have felt immensely better about labor since beginning to read about natural birth. The girls are right that regardless of whether you want to do a natural birth, the books will make you feel alot better about the birthing process, since they do help you to realize that birthing is a natural process and that you can actually get through it easily even without meds! Women do it all across the world, all the time. I have not yet started the Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth, but I highly recommend this Bradley Method book just to help you learn about the labor process and think about it as natural, amazing event:
https://www.amazon.com/Natural-Childbirth-Bradley-Way-Revised/dp/0452276594/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1265032578&sr=8-1
There are also exercises in there to help you prepare for birth. If I'm feeling afraid, I just do some exercises, realizing that I am better my chances of having a more painless birth.
Oh goodness... I am scared too! I am aslo on my first and I just had my first labour nightmare... ugh! Also hearing lovely stories from my mom and MIL about 30+ hours in labour with their first ones is sooooo not helping!
I'm trying to stay positive and I know I will be in good hands but it is def the unknown that has me worried as well as the crazy pain I am imagining! However, I am still sooooo excited to meet baby! The pain will be worth it!