I was asked to throw a shower

lisabowman

for my sister who is pg with her second child.  I told her that it was really uncouth to have a shower for the second child, blah blah blah.  I even offered to host a luncheon for her instead but she said "no, I want a full-blown shower".  Ugh, I do not want to throw one, it will be the exact same people as the first shower.  But I also don't want to majorly piss off my sister.  Any suggestions would be so welcomed.

 

 

sarahbear

Umm, say no?? Seriously. I'd tell her again "I'm sorry, I'm not comfortable throwing you a shower."

nooniesgal

I would honestly say that you feel way to uncomfortable to do it.   If she has enough people who are going to jump for joy to come to yet another shower for her, then she should have some other volunteers.   (either that or let her read this posts )

robinsokj

A.  Its tacky that she is asking for a shower

B.  She sounds incredibly selfish 

C.  I would definitely say no

RoxyLynn

So wrong on so many levels... but, she's an adult and the chances of her learning better manners at this point are really up to her.  Tell her you're happy for her, you're thrilled about your new niece or nephew, and you are not throwing a shower.

EastCoastBride

Let her be pissed. The issue of showers for 2nd babies aside- it's beyond rude to ASK for a shower.  Then- to be asking for a shower, a FULL BLOWN shower at that, for a 2nd child.  Just makes it all the more tacky. 

Tell her you aren't comfortable doing this.   I'd rather piss off one person than have a whole host of people looking at me like "Uh, why are you throwing her another shower?" - beasue really, as the HOST, the eyes will fall on youmore than on her.

bedebum13

I would say no, in fact I did a year and a half ago when my sister sent me an invite list (out of the blue) for her second child and told me what she wanted for a baby shower - it was the first I had heard of it.  I told her I would be happy to help with a meet the baby party after LO was born but I wasn't going to throw another baby shower for her when she had just had one.  She wasn't happy with me but she lived.

h2babe

A co-worker did this to me; for another co-worker who was having her 2nd child--and I barely knew her. She asked me to bake a cake even; and I told her that I wasnt able to do that and she was pissed at me, and gave me a silent treatment for a few wks, and I was okay w/ it. I told her that I was willing to contribute toward a group gift.

Since this is your sister, just say that you'd be able to help with the "meet the baby" party, but you are not able to help w/ the 2nd shower.

 

mysticporter

Yeah, asking for a shower, and wanting a full blow shower for a 2nd kid...no offense, your sister has apparently been run over by the tacky train.

I'd stick to your guns about offering to throw a luncheon for her instead, if you don't mind doing it.  She may get pissed, but since she's being pretty rude about the whole thing I'd just let her get over that .

hopefulmom

How about offering to host a "welcome baby party" because that way she will still get gifts but people will be able to see the new litle one.  Obviously she's all about the gifts so make sure you say that people WILL bring gifts.

megdrew1218

hopefulmom:

How about offering to host a "welcome baby party" because that way she will still get gifts but people will be able to see the new litle one.  Obviously she's all about the gifts so make sure you say that people WILL bring gifts.

I'd tell her you'd help her with a baby barbeque or welcome baby party - at her house - after the baby is born. That way she knows it's on HER. Who demands specifics of a shower?

cajungirl0717

Just say no. LOL. Seriously. She has no right to ask you to throw her a "full blown shower" even if this was baby #1. Rude

scubaspot

I don't care if this is her 1st or 19th, asking someone to throw you a shower is tacky and selfish. I would say no just out of principle. A shower is a gift and asking someone to give you a gift is rude.

Tell her no and let her be upset. If she has so many people who are going to be thrilled about attending another shower for her then let one of those people do it.

Mrs. J

Is this baby the same sex as the first one?  I did an outfit shower for my SIL's second baby.  She had a boy first, and this one was for a boy.  She didn't register or anything. It was fun...especially because everyone likes to buy girl clothes!