My H and I hope to start the adoption process the end of this year. We have not and probably will not TTC. We are hoping to adopt through our state agency. I work for the state as a social worker, and met with an adoption SW for general info/Q&A.
We hav ementioned this to some family members/friends. My family is very supportive of this. DH's family has made some negative comments, ranging from "Don't you want one of your own?" to "What if they don't look like you" to "My friend had a failed adoption, they had to give the kid back, etc." They also seem opposed to us adopting a child of a different background, but would not cme out and say so. How did people handle negative comments like this? Some people say once and if you adopt a child, their feelings will change. I hope this is so.