My DD does NOT want to grow up!

pugowner210

Just turned 3 yesterday...

She holds in her poop and pee which has forced us to delay potty training because previous gentle attempts only made those problems worse and she has been told when she's ready to wear big kid underpants and use the potty to tell us.

HAD to take her paci away bc it's messing up her front teeth and I thought combining that and changing her crib to daybed together would help her see it all means she's a big girl - did the Paci Fairy book for 2 weeks and she knows the Paci Fairy took it and gave her a new toy so she doesn't ask for it and she saw the bedrail when it arrived and was excited but today refused to nap screamed would not go into the bed for anything even though it's 90% identical to how it was so she finally said "I want to sleep in a crib" and we changed it back for her - the real issue was getting the paci away and if she wants a crib a bit longer fine with me. I did tell her that she is a big girl now and she will soon realize that she doesn't want to sleep in a baby crib anymore, but said it gently.

This girl just does NOT want to grow up! Typical firstborn child takes longer thing or possibly because she had a baby brother when she was 21 months so she wants to be like the baby instead of wanting to move onto big kid things? I don't know! I'm not stressing but feel like I may be doing something wrong!!!!!!!!

bubu

Maybe too many things are changing too fast.  Let her adjust to not having the paci for a while and then maybe tackle the bed issue.  I don't really like to push DD into things like there was a timetable to get her potty trained or in a big girl bed.  When we felt she was ready we would introduce her to something new, it's never an easy transition but I think it helps not pushing before she was ready.

CTFandme

I have no advice, but I'm thinking taking the paci away and moving to a daybed at the same time might be too much.  You probably already figured that out and I agree the paci is more important.  My kids are the same distance apart as yours and we moved DS to a bed before DD arrived (only out of necessity though). We waited about 4 months to take his paci away. That was rough on him and we created a new habit in the process. *sigh* We finally broke that habit this weekend and telling him it was time to change because he's 3 now really seemed to get through to him. Although he asked if on his next birthday he could be 2 again .   I say baby steps and patience and it will happen. good luck!