We have just started to return to church the last 2 weeks with DD in tow. The first week, she did awesome. Barely made any noise then took a nap on DH for most of the service. Last week she kind of started tuning up, so I went to the nursing mother's room; however, I missed most of the message on the TV, because my focus was mainly on her. Did anyone here take their 4 mo. old to a nursery at church or another type of enviornment? I'm probably just nervous about leaving her and am making too big a deal about this and should just leave her, but my worries are: illness/germs and if she gets really upset. Can you tell I'm a first-time mom? Advice? Reassurance? Qualms? I'm all ears.
Re: Need advice: church and 4 mo. old
We have taken Miles to church since he was born, and he LOVES it. He is fascinated by the lights and the people and the singing. Or he sleeps. lol We had trouble with him one time, but we just pulled out a bottle, and he settled back in quietly (I always keep a bottle at the ready, just in case). He munched away, and I was still able to participate in the service.
I would try taking her in with you again - last week may have been a fluke. If she still has trouble, check out the nursery. Maybe ask if you can stay with her for the first session, just to get to know the people running it? Maybe it will make you feel a little more comfortable?
Just wait- it gets a million times harder. Wait until they are mobile and talking. To answer your question- no i never took her to a nursery. one because we don't have one and two- i don't think i would if we did have one. But that is me personally.
If YOU and DH want to both go to church and get something out of it without having to tend to a baby- leaving her is the only way. If you are going as a family experience- you just have to make due and make your DD comfortable and quiet.
I am not a big fan of kids in the service, I feel like the kid is getting nothing out of it, and parents spend so much of the service trying to pacify the kid that they get nothing out of it. So why go?
DS loves the nursery at church we started at about 3 months and he loves the nursery worker and smiles everytime we see her. It is a nice hour break DH and I get together everyweek too.
We put DS in the nursery starting at 3 months old. He just couldn't stay in the service - he would get fussy or even his happy coos would be distracting. He never slept.
He does great in the nursery! And it's better for us too - we can actually concentrate on the service instead of trying to occupy him.
However, I will say we have an excellent nursery - they have a really good system for getting in touch with the parents immediately if baby gets too upset. I wouldn't be as comfortable leaving him if they were disorganized.
I take the kids to church, but we have a "cry room." It's connected to the Church, so you can see and hear what's going on. So, I don't get to miss anything.
I personally, wouldn't leave a 4 month old in a nursery if I'm a SAHM, and he/she isn't used to a "babysitter" type environment. That's just me.
It gets easier AFTER age 2 to take your kids to Church. I don't know many "under 2" kids that do well in Church the entire time. Our service is LONG though - about 2 hours.......
I didn't have much choice because we have twins and DH is one of the pastors, so I'm on my own. It wasn't really practical for me to try to handle two noisy infants in church by myself, so I've been taking them to the nursery since they were two months old! (Most other families keep their younger infants with them, but they mostly have 2 parents and 1 child rather than my situation ). It's been fine. I do think they sometimes catch colds there, which is frustrating, but the nursery workers do a great job and do their best to keep everything clean and sanitized. I'd say it's definitely worth trying the nursery and seeing if you're comfortable with it.
Also, I honestly think it's good for us as SAHMS to put our LOs in an environment like the church nursery, so they get used to being taken care of by other caretakers, being around other LOs, etc. I think it makes for an easier adjustment down the road.
I agree with leaving them so they get used to being around other kids. I'm not sure the Church nursery would be somewhere I would want to do this. JMO. We don't have a nursery in our Church - it's why we have a cry room.
I totally agree. That's one of the reasons why I have my kids start preschool at 2 yrs old. I want them to get used to being away from me and start building the trust that I'll always be back for them. I often times wish there were more options for me to get them adjusted to that younger than 2.
Married to J since 5/05, Mommy to T (10/08), L (08/10) and C (02/13) who was born at home.