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Traycee1242
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So I'm curious... those TTC or not preventing....
Traycee1242
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First off, to each their own...no judgements here!!! I am just simply curious and wondering if you have heard differently 
I'm 33... we aren't sure if we want 2 or 3...either way we want and need to get this show on the road! We don't have all the time in the world...I discussed with my OB about how closely we could have our children. We were thinking TTC when LO is 6 months... but...She had a looonnng talk with me about waiting. That I needed at least 9 months (but much better to wait til 12mos after DS was born) to get pregnant so at the very least I would have 18 months between deliveries. Obviously, things can happen... but if we could, to be careful and plan some time between pregnancies. hmph.
She went on to explain in depth about how it was almost crucial to give my future babies the best possible chance... that not giving your body time to recover between pregnancies is not healthy. Higher chance of m/c, defects, etc. She said it had nothing to do with age... just that the body needs time.
I was pretty surprised... I have quite a few family members friends with 2 under 1.
So, guess I'm just wondering if you had the same lecture?
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Re: So I'm curious... those TTC or not preventing....
stfu...your at risk for multiples if you get ktfu soon after #1?! i havent been to the doc yet, so no lecture...**yet**
I've never heard this. We also plan to TTC #2 when L is 6 months.
FWIW, my sisters are 16 months older and 15 months younger than me, and we are all fine, as is my mom. She will tell you the worst part of having three girls so close together was the continuous onset of puberty.
Oh honey I am sure you are fine!!!!! and its a nice little singular baby! When do you go in? Oh dear lord 3 u 1. I would die
lol. Breathe! FWIW I've never heard that....
Your LO is a doll!
too late for you to get a lecture! lol!
yah really! he kinda gave me one at my 6 week appt, since a friend of mine went through the same thing, sorta. He said "try not to end up like ____, heres a prescription for birth control". whoopsie doodle!!!! LOL
That seems really inappropriate thing to say!
You make good points of course... but I was wondering what others were told. She was telling me based on statistics... So if there is a higher chance of m/c, defects, etc...by having pregnancies too close together... I most definitely want to wait and give the next baby the best chance possible...kwim???
We have IF that gets worse as time goes on (my eggs are getting old prematurely and I already don't O on my own). So my doctor told us we needed to wait 6 mos before TTC again and 9 mos before treatments. If I had wanted to attempt a VBAC he wanted me to wait 18 mos.
I'm in the same boat. I'm 31 and DH is 34 and we're not sure if we want 2 or 3, so we don't want to wait too long before TTC #2. I mentioned to my doctor that we wanted to start trying again this spring/summer and he never said anything. Although, by that time LO will be at least 8 months old. Having said that, we aren't using any form of BC and figure whatever happens, happens.
I was told by my OB to wait at least a year, as was my one friend. My other friend was told to wait 18 months. I didn't ask why. I assumed it was because we had c-sections and we need time to heal.
I have no desire to be pregnant for awhile.
I know that after my m/c, I was told that pregnancies have a GREATER chance of "sticking" within 3 months of the m/c (or any procedure done to the uterus).
That's why we got pregnant so quickly afterwards.
I will say, though...being pregnant with Harrison REALLY drained me. I had a lot of trouble with fainting, blood volume, etc because my body simply had not restored itself after 12 weeks of pregnancy & then a miscarriage. In hind sight, I wish we had waited at least a few more months to give my body a chance to rebuild iron, blood, nutrition, etc. I think I would have had a much easier 1st & early 2nd tri if we had waited.
But that's just my personal take on it. My OB did not say anything to me since I told her I wanted birth control to prevent at my 6-week appt.
I know you stated you were not trying to be judgmental, but I guess this sentence makes it appear to me that you are. I know it is hard to get points across on the internet sometimes though, so I really want to give you the benefit of the doubt.
I did not get pregnant so soon again to be reckless or because I had, "baby fever". There are personal medical reasons that I did so. My OB, my DH, and I talked about the risks prior to TTC, and it was a chance I had to take if I wanted to have another child, which I did. We were very blessed, and surprised, with a success on the first try.
I really did not want to have to justify my reasons, and will not go so far as to reveal exactly why this was right for my family, but a post like this makes me feel like I have to.
Like I stated above, I am probably just reading too much into this. I guess I will be dealing with enough of this type of attitude IRL so I guess I should get used to it.