SIL Vent

LizzieVP12

We were at my MIL's house having dinner when my MIL asked my SIL whether she wanted a boy or a girl..she responds with "a cat"!!! WTF seriously, I was so pissed!! We've always had our issues because she feels I took her brother away even though I didn't ask myself to marry myself and shes all concerned that we shouldn't be having a baby!!! She irks the hell outta me, she needs to worry about her own damn self!!!

Vent over, I feel semi better!!

 

magdalina.h

How old is she?

BeckyTheEngineer

Is she 5 years old?  Because that would be cute.  But I'm guessing she's an adult, and has some bizarre jealously of you. 

JhawkCE

You really need to not let her do that to you...maybe some breathing techniques or something....simma...dah...nah.  I'm sure she enjoys the reactions she gets.

I tell people I'm hoping for a monkey or a puppy.

rlscheck

If that's how she is, I would probably pity her more than be mad at her.  Sometimes when I see people's true colors it makes me more grateful that I'm normal!  (although my DH would beg to differ)

robinsokj

overreaction

orienae

We had a neighbor who got pregnant "later in life", and she would always tell people she wanted a spaniel!

paxilchyk

We responded with "a puppy" or "a baby" when asked because we didn't have a preference.  I don't think she was trying to be insulting.

opheliacantswim

Since I don't know your SIL, this may well have been said insultingly, but my DH and I often respond to that question with "a puppy!"   Maybe she meant it the same way?  

buddhagouda

I bet you're fun to hang out with. I'd look at you wrong, and you'd freak out that I was threatening to kill you. 

LizzieVP12

She's 20 and she hasn't been happy that we're pregnant.  She's the only person we've told our news about that gave us the crazy look. Acutally I am fun to hang out with, once you get on my bad sad, it's a different story!!!

magdalina.h

I think you're over-reacting. (just from this post) Since she's on your bad side you probably just assume everything is negative that she says. I know I do the same thing.

mrstarawalsh

wow over react much?

daisygrlccli

I am sorry to hear about your SIL.   Maybe at 20 years old she just is being self centered and not wanting to think about you and her brother being happy.  I hope your drama gets better. 

My SIL is a character as well and it I have reached the point I just don't care which I know is hurtful.  But, I had to because it was so painful.   At this time, she still doesn't know I am prego because she can't handle that I am.  We live 5 miles apart- this is stupidity at its best.  When my husband told his brother, he was upset with us and was shocked that we were having a child because "we had only been married 2 1/2 years" and "I work".  He told us that it was rude considering my SIL had just had a misscarriage.  Ok, so because your wife had misscarriage #7 that I didn't even know about I can't be happy or live my life.  My SIL retired to plan her wedding 10 years ago and spends her days sitting on the couch while my BIL and SIL have lost their house and had to declare bankrupcy. This drama has gone on for years and to the point they have withdrawn from my husbands family because they are so crazy. 

 So I would ask everyone, should I invite her to my  baby shower??

preppynewlywed

robinsokj:

overreaction

this.

who cares?

Qmommy

No need for you to let others upset you with comments like that.  Brush it off.  I feel that we make choices to let others make us feel good or bad.  I also find humor in others when they get ticked off. 

Try and look at her like this:  she's upset and bothered because you married her brother and are now having a child with him.  SHE's upset about it... that's funny!  She's making herself miserable over this... miserable... that's why she makes snide comments.  That's funny!  It must suck to make yourself miserable like that!   Don't let that happen to you when it comes to your SIL.   Think of it as humorous... SHE's a crab apple and that has to feel pretty crappy.  I know I don't have fun when I let negative emotions take over me.  

sturgeje

people like that are just no fun.  don't let them get to you!