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Nest Laura

Hi everyone! My name is Laura and I?m new here at The Bump ? I was hoping you may be able to help me with an article by answering this question:

What was your husband?s reaction when you told him you were pregnant? From the good to the bad to the somewhere-in-between, what did he say and do when you broke the news and why?

Please share your stories here. Thank you for your help!

jusbex

I don't think he believed me (since I was on birth control at the time). He didn't even look up from his video game. He just said, "Are you sure? Maybe you should take another test."

I think it set in when we got confirmation from the Dr. Then he got excited. We were planning to start trying in a few months anyway.  

leslielou22

He had actually taken me to the ER because I had an ovarian cyst that ruptured and the doctor was like "Oh and congratulations! You're 5 weeks pregnant!!"  I have PCOS and was on birth control so we didn't really believe the doctor.  It didn't really sink in with him until after the first trimester.

elizabow

We had endured the two week wait and DH wanted to be present when I tested.  So I POAS and waited.  We both eyed it on the bathroom counter, and I thought I could see the faintest line ever...

Me: OMG! omg! Is that a line? Do you see a line 'cuz I think I see a line but I'm not sure what do you think, that might be a line??????

Him: I see a line!  (Then he started laughing and we jumped up and down for joy)!

It.was.awesome.

mandolynn81

I woke dh up at 7 in the morning to tell him - he didn't beleive me so he came in the bathroom and just looked at it and scratched his head - after a long pause

he said - i think you must have done it wrong

(we had been trying for 2 1/2 years and had gotton our hopes up so many times)

I asked - how can i pee on a stick wrong?

his answer - well, i'm really not sure

then we both started crying 

rinny627

I took a test while DH was at work because I didn't think I was really pregnant. Then it came up positive and I paced around the house until DH came home. I showed him the "Pregnant" on BOTH pregnancy tests and he just said "Oh." And then a week later decided to talk about it. This wasn't a planned thing.

Cullum13

I called and asked when he would be home. He knew something was up by my voice but I just told him that I would talk to him when he got home. He walked in with a HUGE grin and and wouldn't even look at the test. He just said "I know what it is" and hugged me. We had just started trying about 3  weeks before.

jenna0627

We had been trying for a really long time and just recently went through a ton of infertility testing.  I was waiting to start Clomid and was actually excited that we might have something that would work. I took a test because I still hadn't had my period (even though my cycles were really irregular) and we had one under the sink anyhow. I seriously thought I did the test wrong and kept looking at the box and the stick. I called DH who was at work and said that I'm pretty sure I am pregnant but I'm calling our doctor to get bloodwork done. He said "no way you did it wrong you have done a million, I can't believe it I have to tell everyone, love you" and hung up. I could have killed him but I was too excited as well.

haleymay18

My DH asked me if the test was expired and then fumbled to find the box.

It was charming.

nataliegrace06

We weren't really trying. When I told him he said, "so....what do we do now?" Don't worry he was happy, just shocked.

sarahswim

Our story is a little different.  He was the one who told me.  We had gone through the IVF process and I had gone into the RE's office for the bloodtest for my beta.  We decided that the doctor would call him, since I would be at school and if it was bad news, I probably wouldn't have been able to hold it together in front of my class. 

So he called my classroom and said, "Well, it worked.  It seriously worked.  We're having a baby!"  And I started to cry, but then managed to get it together because I still had a classroom full of kids! 

I'm probably one of the few women whose husband not only found out first, but then got to relay the news to his wife.  It was pretty cool. 

alybookgirl

We were not planning on having kids for a few years so when I missed my period and POAS at work, I started sobbing. I just knew DH would be mad and I was so afraid of telling him! I called him on the way home and started crying when I told him. He was really excited and calm and made me feel so much better. He really calmed me down, but made me take several more tests before he would believe it. When the dr confirmed it, we both were very excited and began telling everyone. It was a very wonderful time, even though we were not expecting this. 

NMH0783

FI and I were planning on getting married and starting a family, but not this soon! lol. I was at his house (we werent living together at the time) one night and we were talking about how I "so wasn't" pregnant because everyone kept saying how "different" I was looking. To prove him wrong, I told him, "look, I took a test at work last week and it was negative..I promise you this one will be too..jeez!". He laughed, and I went to the bathroom, yeah, little to my knowledge it was positive! I must have looked and read the test 100 times before it hit me, I then brought the test over to FI with a very shocked look on my face and said "omg...I'm pregnant...." he looked at the test, looked at me, hugged me tightly, said "I love you so much", gave me a hug and a big kiss and later said "alright! lets eat!" lol. He was REALLY excited that night and must have called everyone we knew! I, on the other hand, was very very nauseated and terrified..lol.

EbethM0231

I bought a $ store test just for fun b/c I was only l was  only like 2 days late, which was sort of normal for me.  I peed on it and the faintest 2nd line showed up.  I started freeking out....I had only been off BC for a month!  I showed DH and he said "nahhh, the line is too faint.  it's probably a bad test."  So I went out and bought a digital one and sure enough, the word "Pregnant" popped up!  We both just looked at each other and started laughing!  I don't think it really set in till we heard the heartbeat at our first doctor's appointment.

HoweJones

I don't think he believed me at first but when he actually saw the results he hoped for twins!

Rachel2315

I got pregnant right after a miscarriage.  I POAS in the morning at like 6 am.  It was positive.  So I went downstairs and told the girls on TTCAL and my anniversary board on thenest.com first.  Then I woke up DH and told him.

His response is as follows:

"Cool."

**Loud farts and snoring** 

burning_television

I have PCOS, so when I went off the pill to chart (Dr's reccomendation, since the fertility specialist had one hell of a waiting list) we weren't expecting anything to happen. So when I got morning sickness, I assumed it was merely food poisoning from the Chinese food we had on Valentine's Day.

A mutual friend of ours suggested POAS to rule out pregnancy before my fam doc's appointment later in the week (appt was for something completely unrelated). Stubbornly, I did.

And that was one hell of a surprise.  

erinb31

My husband was convinced I was pregnant, and I kept telling him I wasn't-- my period was not even late; it was just due.  He told me I had two days and then he was going to buy a test-- I felt crampy so I got mad at him and yelled, "I am getting my period!  I think I know my body!"

 

Well, he bought the test two days later, and we got a sweet little double pink line.  I started to cry, he started to cry, and we just looked at each other in amazement, fear, and joy.

Lucky428

We just had our third m/c.  We got pregnant through an IUI with that pregnancy.  We were told not to do another IUI because our chances were so low.  Between RPL and our IF, we had close to no chance of getting pregnant.  We were stunned when I started feeling pregnant.  I kept POAS and neither of us could believe it.  We got b/w done and lo and behold, we were pregnant with the little man in my siggy!

We both felt the same- joy, elation, panic, fear, shock... we simply couldn't believe it.  We got pregnant on our own, and our little miracle baby stuck! 

i*heart*him

HE said "want to get breakfast?" We both had an idea, and he was laying in bed about to get up. 

It was a memorable breakfast!

notmommyoftheyear

I think he was really nervous to believe it.  His exact words were "i see half a line."  I think he was afraid that I was getting my hopes up but that it wasn't real.  Once I took a digital test then he was more excited and wanted to tell everyone. 

thaira

I was on a Yaz birth control study...the study was a year long and I was on my last month.  For the study you take a pregnancy test before you start each pack of pills.  So when the test said positive...I was shocked. (I had been taking these tests for 11 months now expecting a negative...Most people taking a test are curious if they are pregnant...not me and this was more than shocking. 

Now I had to tell my husband...I was so nervous.  I came out of the bathroom with my jaw to the floor...he was on the phone and thought I was just being quirky.  I sat on the couch waiting for him to get off the phone...He never talks on the phone and this conversation seemed to last forever.  Well, it was a very long 5 minutes.

Finally he got off the phone and I said come here we need to talk.  He was confused.  I asked him to sit down.  I said I think Im pregnant...and began to cry.  I was crying because I was so nervous for his reaction.  He said...why do you think your pregnant.  I showed him the test and he said well then we are pregnant.  He hugged me and kissed me and was just fine with everything.

We had been married 8 months...and were planning on trying the upcoming fall...instead we got our daughter that fall.