WWYD? Shower Related (Long)

mrssamuels2b

Okay...when my mom's old supervisor(a very close family friend who often refers to herself as my "white grandmother") found out that I was pg she told my mother and SIL that she wanted to host a shower for me...I was reluctant to say anothing more about it b/c I didn't want to appear too forward. Over the past few months my mom said that the friend wwould call and say "We have to get together on the shower" but never threw out anything concrete. In the meantime my SIL and aunt have been planning shower for me and invited practically everyone(including my mother's co-workers/the friends former employees) other than my co-workers as they are having a seperate shower for me. 

Fast forward to earlier this week,my mother decides to go ahead and call the friend to let her know that my shower is this weekend. The friend then says, "Well, I'm gonna be out of town until next week but I'd still like to throw a shower for Ashley". At this point my mom told her that I would just call her directly so we cound get together. I call her and she wants to contribute to the shower this weekend but wants to throw a shower as well...the thing is that she wants to invite my mom's co-workers...they've already been invited to Sunday's shower b/c we never heard anything from her.

I'm sure some of them wouldn't mind coming to 2 showers but I think it's a little too forward to ask that of them...I would love for her to host a shower for me but everyone has already been invited to Sunday's shower...I'm all out of friends!

I guess I'm asking what I should do about the fact that I have someone who wants to give me a shower but no one to actually come to it...I was thinking of maybe something more along the lines of a tea or maybe even a meet and greet after he's here...not sure...WWYD?

buckeyeki

I think you should explain the situation and ask her if she would like to host a meet the baby party instead.  The meet and greet is a great idea!

bmb10

Does she know that everyone you know has already been invited to the shower your SIL/Aunt are hosting? And was she invited to said shower?

LuvMyBostons

Personally, I would not want a 3rd shower.  If she is only going to re-invite people from the other shower, most won't want to go again.  I would suggest if she is unable to come to this one coming up, maybe a nice dinner or coming over like you said after the baby is born.  That's just my opinion tho, good luck!

mrssamuels2b

bmb10:

Does she know that everyone you know has already been invited to the shower your SIL/Aunt are hosting? And was she invited to said shower?

I just spoke with her on yesterday and didn't give the details of the guest list. I'm supposed to email her with dates and I plan to tell her then...She wasn't formally invited to the shower on Sunday b/c I was initially under the impression that she and my mom were still in contact...she travels alot for work and things just got put off I guess. My mom did call earlier this week to mention the shower to her though. 

bmb10

mrssamuels2b:

bmb10:

Does she know that everyone you know has already been invited to the shower your SIL/Aunt are hosting? And was she invited to said shower?

I just spoke with her on yesterday and didn't give the details of the guest list. I'm supposed to email her with dates and I plan to tell her then...She wasn't formally invited to the shower on Sunday b/c I was initially under the impression that she and my mom were still in contact...she travels alot for work and things just got put off I guess. My mom did call earlier this week to mention the shower to her though. 

Hmm... If it were me, I would be honest with her then and say that everyone you know is being invited to the shower this weekend. But that you would love it if she wanted to host a "welcome baby" party. That way people who come to your shower and bring a gift won't feel weird getting invited to something else since it won't be a shower.  

foreignroyalty

You shouldn't do anything. Your mum should let  her know another shower would be redundant for guests.