bad day...very bad.

tigergreen

My MIL passed away this morning after about a year-long battle with a brain tumor that had pretty much taken away everything she was.  Although I'm sad, I'm also glad that things didn't painfully drag out any longer than they had to.

I'm just happy DH was able to go up there (about an hour & 1/2 away) yesterday so he could see her.

To top it all off, we're in the middle of an ice & snowstorm here, so we're going to have to figure out how DS and I can get up there.  (folks in memphis & surrounding areas do NOT do well with ice & snow.)

Here's a question that i hope none of you have to know the answer to...do you bring a baby to a visitation if it's for his grandmother?  obviously he's too little for this to have any emotional effect on him, but I just don't know what the right thing would be to do here...

blushingbrideoct07

When my grandfather died my very young Aunt brought her two infants to the visitation. ?The whole family felt very comforted having those little guys there. ?I would say yes.

I am so sorry about MIL. ??

yodo19

I'm so sorry to hear that.  ::sending hugs::

MrsBatty

I'm so sorry for your loss. I think you should take him only if it's convenient for you ...

tabi_ja

So sorry to hear of your loss.  Hugs to you and your family.

 As for the visitation, I would take your son.  He is her grandson, and even if he won't remember it, he should be there IMO. 

H4'sFan

First of all, I am so sorry for your loss.

I think it would be fine to bring him if you are up to watching him.

Good luck getting there and again I am sorry.

hriesen4

Sorry about your MIL.  T&Ps with hugs.

I have no idea about the taking DS.  If it was closer to your home, I'd say that he could go to the viewing for a bit and have one of your family members come to pick him up.  I wouldn't take him to the burial.  Sorry that's not a big help to you.

For the ice...just drive slow and take your time.  We have ice and snow all winter.  It's ok even to drive 25 mph.  Some ppl will pass you or ride your tail.  Just pull off and let them pass.  Better safe than sorry.

aSp6907

When my SIL's mother passed away she took my nephew to the wake and funeral. He wasn't a year yet but everyone was happy that him and his cousin were both there. I say take him. You and your husband will want him there.

smilelari

I have no idea

I'm so sorry for your loss

volligtoll

I'm very sorry for your loss. I just lost my great aunt last week and I brought my LO with us to the visitation, funural and the lunch service the family had afterward but my LO is very good with large groups of people. I'm sure your DH family would also like to see your LO, they can be the one bright spot on a very dark day. I'll keep you guys in my thoughts and prayers.

sarahbethrn

As a Jackson girl, I know how you feel about the ice and snow.  Good luck and be super careful and safe out there. 

I am sorry for your loss.  My thoughts are with your family.  It sounds like she's had a tough time.

I would absolutley bring DS.  I'm sure she would be honored to have him there.  Be careful on all this snow and ice!

fairychick77

I'm sorry for your loss.

DH's mother passed away in November and Jackson sat front and center with DH and I at the memorial service (she was cremated).

 

tegl

I'm so sorry.  As with reasons mentioned by pp, I would bring DS as well.

tigergreen

sarahbethrn:

As a Jackson girl, I know how you feel about the ice and snow.  Good luck and be super careful and safe out there. 

I am sorry for your loss.  My thoughts are with your family.  It sounds like she's had a tough time.

I would absolutley bring DS.  I'm sure she would be honored to have him there.  Be careful on all this snow and ice!

 

thanks...DH is from Trenton, so not too far away from ya'll.

sarahbethrn

Yep, we're practically neighbors!  From what it looks like, we're getting a bunch of snow and not much ice, so maybe that will be a littgle safer to drive on.

pennyopolis

When my dad passed away my first DS was 5 months old.  We took him to the visitation but got a family friend to babysit during the actual service.  It was nice to have him at the part of the services where everyone was visiting and then have the actual funeral to ourselves to focus on saying goodbye to my dad.

Whatever you decide, everyone loves a baby, especially at a time like this.  I hope your family feels better soon.