Putting good advice into practice.
TommysGirl56
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What I learned from my first appointment with the psychologist:
1. I can't do it all, even if I think everything is my responsibility. Something has to give. I have to let others help me out, even if I do feel guilty about it.
2. I need to revisit doing those things that I once enjoyed doing (running, baking, reading).
That is pretty much what we discussed on that first visit, other than assessing my symptoms and me pouring my heart out about what causes me anxiety (mostly how overwhelmed I am about everything I have to do). Last night I started ticking off out loud to my husband the list of household chores I needed to get done. He reminded me..."what did you discuss in counseling? You are not an island, I am here to do things, too." So even if I feel a little guilt over not being able to handle it all myself, I am getting help with the housework.
He also watched Alannah yesterday evening so that I could read and take a nap. I had come to him, crying because I wanted time alone, but felt guilty because I am not supposed to feel that way about my baby...the not wanting to take care of her at that moment. After I rested, I came back refreshed, ready to play with Alannah, and happy. I think I will like this!
Re: Putting good advice into practice.
I'm glad that you already have gotten something from your meeting! I'm glad to see that your DH is so supportive! That is great!
It is important to take care of yourself, that way, you have more to give your DD.
I do what I have to do and try not to do too much. My house may not be as tidy as it could be, but I need my down time too.
I hope that things continue to get better!