ABC's of Therapy

beachykeen1723

This is something cool I learned, it has helped me, and maybe will help you!

Activating Event- in our case, having a preemie and a traumatic birth experience.

Beliefs- The things we tell ourselves, i.e. that we did something wrong, that our babies belong to the nurses, etc.

Choices- the decisions we make based on our beliefs, i.e being overprotective, checking on LO thousands of times at night, etc.

The only thing we can change are the B's. We need to tell ourselves the TRUTH- that we have done everything we can for our babies, that we are fantastic moms, and that this preemie bs will pass!

Women tend to beat themselves up, and tell themselves "bad b's."  Tell yourself good B's, ladies!

Jennyjenz

  thx Rachel!

beachykeen1723

No problem! It's a little cheesy/ Stuart Smalley, but it helps!

SWMcFarland

beachykeen1723:

No problem! It's a little cheesy/ Stuart Smalley, but it helps!

I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and gosh darnit, people like me!!!!

AviatorJJ

that was so sweet!

Bippy798

That was a really nice thing to hear this morning. It has been a bad one.

beachykeen1723

Bippy798:

That was a really nice thing to hear this morning. It has been a bad one.

I'm sorry! It will get better- I promise! HUGS!!!

Bippy798

Thanks beachy. I keep telling myself that but sometimes my brain doesn't want to listen.

gymrat