WWYD?

scuba_bride

I have a bit of a situation and need some outside opinions.
DH and I are planning on moving to VA at the end of the year. Here's my story: If we wait until the end of the year (or however long it takes for our house to sell) this job will have definitely passed me by. My sister is willing to watch Olivia during the day while I go to work.
DH would have to stay behind, put the house on the market now and tie up all the loose ends down here. He doesn't want to split up our family. I'd be able to stay with my parents (in their giant new house- Olivia and I would have our own space) until Jon was able to move up there and we could buy our own place.

Would you do it?

CarrieLiz

If my husband didn't want to do it, I wouldn't do it.

tag4us

I understand your dh not wanting to split the family up but he also needs to think about you past the next four months--either you stay behind and you are all together for 4 months and then you don't have this great job or you make a sacrifice for a few months and you can all be happy together for years to come.

ozgirl96

It would depend on the job market. If I knew it would be nearly impossible to get another similar job, then maybe I would go.  However, I wouldn't do it unless my husband were 100% behind it.

Daydream221

It would have to be a mutal decision but if you can get H on board, I would take the job and move and he come when he sells the house. You dont know when another job if its too good to pass up will come again.

sandy02

If it was my absolute dream job, then yes.  If not, then no I would not split my family for it.  These first months go so quick and are so precious that I wouldnt want to deprive my husband from experiencing it too.

Tuesday*Night

If DH and I were in total agreement and we had established a timeline of how things would flow and the expectations were clearly established with my family, I would.  (Living with and depending on relatives can get tricky sometimes.)

staycee

my aunt and uncle did that.  They wanted to relocate from michigan to AZ.   She got a great job offer and jumped on it.   He stayed behind to sell the house and all that business.

It's been 3 years.   He still is in the house trying to sell it in Michigan.   She's in AZ.   THey are racking up some major frequent flyer miles on weekends though.

heather_09_15_07

I would, but only if he was ok with it. I wouldn't want to feel like I dragged him into it. But he also needs to understand how important it is for you, too.

Kailyn S

I probably wouldn't do it unless it was my dream job and DH totally agreed.

Plus, when DH and I moved out of FL last year, the housing market was really hard, nobody's houses were selling.  If you leave w/o DH, what would happen if it takes a long time to sell?  He could be stuck down there for a long time, and missing out of months of Olivia growing up.

somalia

This is a tough one. I'd definitely want to do it for the job opportunity, but it would be so hard for me to say "we're doing it and that's it." I'd need dh to be on board with me and maybe do a pro/con list if we couldn't reach a decision together. GL, scoobs - whatever you decide.