anyone feel this way?

mrs_allred

sex is starting to feel like a chore or job for me. im getting to the point where im like "okay just do it and get it over with". or just not do it at all. and i dont know how to change that...its getting pretty annoying because H wants to do it ALL the time, like everyday. and i dont.

XXXXX222

DH and I have the opposite problem. My drive is much more than his. We've had to work a lot on not offending each other. I used to end up feeling unwanted and unattractive, and he would feel awful for doing that to me. However, sex every day around ovulation has started getting to me.

mooeta

i know how you feel.  My DH asked the other night if i wanted his sperm. Can't you just feel the romance.

mrs_allred

omg that is the EXACT way it is going here. he says he feels like i dont want him anymore! and i try to explain to him that i dont want to do it everyday and he just gets mad!

mrs_allred

oh mooeta! very romantic! lol.

XXXXX222

Yeah, it's like a cycle. We used to end up so upset after sex, that he'd associate sex with feeling bad! We're getting better though, thank God.

mrs_allred

well we made a deal that we would have sex every other day. it works pretty good but sometimes he wants to do it the next day too, and i just have to tell him no or do it and skip the next day. but as soon as he THINKS Ov is close (even if it is CD 14 which he still thinks is my Ov time), he wants to do it EVERY day until we get the confirmed Ov on FF and i dont.

Bubbly Bobble

I feel the same way, lets just hurry up and get done with it. Latley its been more difficult, dh does not want it at all since he is working 80 hours a week. Then i feel rejected or when we do have sex my O date changes.

theniquee

When we were ttc we did it maybe a couple of times a week, then during the most fertile period we had sex every other day.  it worked out well for us.  DH was really disappointed when i got pregnant and any movement made my breasts hurt so much i wanted to cry.  our sex life took a hit until the second tri, then again in the last 8 weeks or so because i'm just so darn big and awkward. 

vidaloca

i agree with some of the pps.  my drive is higher than dh's, and many times i'm in the mood when he's not.  but during the last couple times of ovulation, we've tried to keep it fun and romantic, but it can feel like a chore.  the last night that we tried i didn't feel like it...

margarita1365

I'm the same way, and I was even before I got pregnant.  When we were TTC, DH was a happy man because I didn't mind having sex then!  But now I'm back to not caring if we ever do it again.  He has gotten to the point where he doesn't bug me about sex anymore because he knows it irritates me when he does.  But I hate that I don't want it more. 

mrs_allred

well ive been telling him to lets just keep doing it everyother day even in the most fertile times, but that just wont work. he thinks we should still do it everyday.

mrs_allred

margarita-yeah i was the same way with doing it EVERYDAY until i found out i was pg in Dec. then we kinda slacked off a little. back then i wanted it more, like i couldnt get enough Lol, but now im like i dont even know i wanna do it most of the time. idk if it is because we lost the baby or what. but since then, my whole attitude has changed with everything.

TennisWife815

Since I went off the pill I have so much drive. Right now DH is enjoying it but every once in awhile, I think he's tired and has had enough. Its such a change b/c I used to really only be a once-a-week person.