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TTC after 35
Vent About DH
I'm going to hurt him! Last night he looked at the paperwork about the Follistim and said, "Twins? I wanted to do the other thing." Meaning an IUI. I distinctly remember our conversation on Sunday and he said he wanted nothing more to do with putting his junk in a cup. I even teased him about how good he's getting at that skill. So I call the doctor today and he says that if we do an IUI and Femara, that we boost our odds about 2% higher for getting pregnant. If we do Femara & Follistim, we boost them 10%. I decided to type it all up for DH because I really wonder if he ever is listening to me. The doctor said that the Femara may only be partially treating my ovulatory disorder, so adding the Follistim is a good plan. DH is going to have to adjust to the fact that we need to use the Follistim this month. I am not getting any younger and we've been at this with no results for too long. We should only end up with 2 or 3 eggs, so it's not like we'd become the new Octo Parents or anything. I am just so frustrated that he apparently isn't as good of a listener as I thought he was!
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Re: Vent About DH
I know...I really don't think that they listen. My DH and I had it out AGAIN last night on the exact same issue I posted about a few days ago (he's going to be out of town during the retrieval, which means he needs to freeze a sample, but he doesn't want to). We fought about it on Monday, resolved in Monday night and by last night he seemed to have completely forgotten about our other million previous conversations! I'm soooo aggrevated! I finally broke down and told him that he only has to do ONE thing - yes, there's a cup involved, but put on your big boy pants (or take them off) and deal with it! I on the other hand have to do a whole heck of a lot more than just deal with a cup! Sometimes, I wish that there were a way to do this whole process without them.
IUI #1: December 2008 - BFN
IVF #1: Microdose Lupron - July 2009; only got 1 egg; BFN
IVF #2: Natural IVF - Sept 2009; BFP!; D&C Nov. 2009
IVF #3: Natural IVF - ER: Feb 4, 2010 - 1 "M2" egg retrieved; ET: Feb 9; Beta#1 (19dpo): 2567; Beta #2: 6933; BFP w/ singleton w/strong hrtbt! DS born October 2010
TTC#2
IVF #4: Natural IVF - ER: Nov. 20, 2011; ET: Nov. 25, 2011; BFP! Beta#1 (19dpo): 1918; Saw hrtbt on 12/28/11!
Ahhh so my husband is like your husbands. Good to know.
I think my husband forgets that he has 8 years on me (not to mention he's a guy so he really has a life time on me) because he doesn't seem to get that I don't have a huge open window to work with. So we had been arguing about when to do something and I repeatedly say 'I'm not 29, like you, I'm 37..... I don't have a life time of eggs like you do sperm' I swear he doesn't listen.
He didn't think we needed to go to an RE (HELLO 2 years!!!) but I did and went ahead and made an appt despite that...he wasn't thrilled about it. We argued and I once again said 'I'm not 29, like you, I'm 37..... I don't have a life time of eggs like you do sperm' then added my autoimmune disease and clotting disorders (which had then come to our attention) as others reason to go to a specialist. Finally he agrees
Ugh!!!
Oh and with my MTHFR I have a folic acid deficiency which, as we all know, is not good for a growing fetus. So he keeps telling me I need to go get my folic acid levels checks
Ooooookay. Thank God for Dr. RE because he told him that it isn't necessary and what I'm doing is fine- 4mg folic acid daily- (which I told him too).
He's very smart so when these conversation happen I just want to scream 'use you brain!!!'.
I'm sorry your DH is being difficult. I fully understand! The reason I've taken so many rounds of clomid is because I didn't want to tell him I was taking it during the first couple of rounds - hoping I'd just get pg. I tried not to freak him out. I did tell him eventually, even told him what it would do to my body and it still didn't help.
I'm with pp, I wish there were some way to do this without them!
I guess this is one of the tidbits that i have learned through IF...I though men could have fun in a cup at the anytime anyday, anywhere...well that is completely false. DH hates it. I don't see a big deal about it especially since I am willing to help!
I think they just don"'t get it sometimes. My DH has finally learned that we have NO control over my cycle, so it's just a PIA that we've learned to live with. Mine finally said that the cup can't be as bad as jabbing yourself with needles all day long (I made him learn how to do the PIO and he almost fainted the first time). Also, this means that your odds of NOT having twins are 90%, right?