Forcing a kid to eat

FutureHernandez · August 2008

I'm so fncking annoyed. DH's ex sends a text telling us to make sure that their 13 year old daughter eats dinner because she has only had breakfast and has not been eating well lately.

It's like no sh!t, Sherlock. We still have not made dinner and if the kid doesn't want to eat we can't force her.

She's been here for less than an hour and her mom has already called to see how she's doing and to make sure she eats.

I'm just annoyed with clingy mothers. I hope I'm not like that one day.

Chrysallys · August 2008

Honestly I'd be worried with a young girl's poor eating habits too. My SD is 17 and has been eating like crap for a couple years. We (well mostly me) suspect some sort of eating disorder.

MrsErinnElizabeth · August 2008

FH, I just posted something on TTCAL in relation to stepkids. Read it, dammit! And I don't believe in the force feeding either. My parents rule was that we had to TRY everything on our plate. If we didn't' finish it, so be it, but we better not expect ice cream and cookies an hour later.

FutureHernandez · August 2008

We eat very healthy most of the times. SD has never had an issue with her eating habits.

She was on vacation and just returned today. I'm sure she is grossed out from all the junk food they've been eating this past week.

I just get bothered easily, because BM calls our house between 5-8 times a day when SD is here. It's constant monitoring of what we do or do not do. We have SD 50% of the time so the phone is always ringing or SD is on the phone with her mom.

MrsErinnElizabeth · August 2008

That would royally piss me off if BM did that with SS. I think she's a little bit afraid of me though so she doesn't, thank god.

XXXXX222 · August 2008

Hmm, I wonder how she would feel if YH constantly called when SD was with her?

Chrysallys · August 2008

Well I can understand your frustration there. We don't have that problem, BM never calls, not even on Christmas, though she will IM with the kids here and there.

FutureHernandez · August 2008

EE, it's tough. I want to disconnect the phone becuase the only person that calls here is BM, but I feel guilty doing it.

BM wants her child to grow up too quickly. She sent me a text last week if I thought SD was old enough to use tampons. The kid is 13 but socially she's like a 10 year old. Personally, I think she's too young to be shoving anything anywhere!

She has name brand clothes, has had 3 cellphones since she was 11 (expensive ones too), and expects things to be given to her.

DH and I try so hard to bring her down and appreciate whatever it is she has but it's difficult when the two homes she lives in are raising her differently.