Babies on the Brain
WWYD
Maybe I am wrong to be pissed off about this, My son is eight years old, and 8 years ago when I was pregnant with him I had a boy name and a girl name picked out since we did not know his sex (by choice). When he was born, I knew I would still use that girl name f I ever got pregnant again and had a girl, I even sat down with SIL and told her that I loved that name, that it was a family name and to please never use it if she had a daughter before me. At the time, SIL wasnt even engaged let alone PG and she happily agreed stating she didn't even like the name anyway. Eight years later, she is married with a 5 year old daughter and a 3 year old daughter.
She is 21 weeks PG now and she announced at dinner tonight the name she is using and guess what it was....MINE! I went bullistic! I said I thought you didn't even like it? She said she has changed her mind since she now thinks it is very unique and she has never even met one person with it. What a biotch! Then she continues to tell me that I don't need it cause I am never gonna have another baby anyway at the "rate I am going". We had not told anyone in the family that we were TTC cause we wanted it to be a surprise. My DH was so mad at her that he spilled the beans about that and then we literally got up from the dinner table and left.
I don't want a huge family arguement about this but I feel like I have been smacked in the face by SIL.
Do I have the right to be upset? Or should I just suck it up and shut my mouth
Am I wrong
She is 21 weeks PG now and she announced at dinner tonight the name she is using and guess what it was....MINE! I went bullistic! I said I thought you didn't even like it? She said she has changed her mind since she now thinks it is very unique and she has never even met one person with it. What a biotch! Then she continues to tell me that I don't need it cause I am never gonna have another baby anyway at the "rate I am going". We had not told anyone in the family that we were TTC cause we wanted it to be a surprise. My DH was so mad at her that he spilled the beans about that and then we literally got up from the dinner table and left.
I don't want a huge family arguement about this but I feel like I have been smacked in the face by SIL.
Do I have the right to be upset? Or should I just suck it up and shut my mouth
Am I wrong
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Re: WWYD
It's super sh!tty that she's using a name that she knew you wanted. But you can't claim a name. Sorry.
What is the name? We must know.
Also, it's ballistic, not bullistic.
I say lesson learn, Dont tell her things, she oviously is doing it to annoy you. Yes she may like it, but I can bet she probably wouldnt have thought about that name if you never said anything.
Can we know the name?
She really IS a douche.
DH says that if we do get a girl, to name her that anyway, he says when people ask why the two have the same name to tell them all what a cun* his sister is.
Oh yeah, she's definitely being a total cvnt about it. Although at 21 weeks pg, she has plenty of time to change her mind.
Throw some other names at her that you "plan on using" maybe she'll steal one of those and Piper will be yours again.
Definitely talk to her - let her know how important it is to you and how f'd up it is that she would use that name after you asked her not to. She probably won't change her mind, but you can still name your daughter Piper anyways.
I totally see why it's important to her, and it is an adorable name. But name-calling her SIL to people when asking why there are 2 Pipers...that's a little much IMO.
DH has such a large family, and there are so many kids that eventually I'm sure 2 cousins will be named the same name. It's not the end of the world.
regardless of whether or not it's appropriate or childish to get upset over the "name stealing" (which would probably annoy me, but not enough to leave dinner early), her comment was way out of line, esp. considering you're TTC.
for that reason alone, I'd be very pissed.
Do it! Do it! (Seriously, though, if I were you I would still use that name if I ever had a girl. It's your grandmother and it's special to you.)