Need some parenting advice - pretty please!

isabella22

DD has been potty trained (day) for about 8 months and night for about 4 months.

Problem is she STILL has a BM in her undies, seemingly just because she doesn't want to stop playing.

It is driving me a little crazy!  I have tried extra praise and even special prizes for going on the potty, but she still has some 'accidents', but they aren't really accidents because she knows she is going to go.  Often times a couple minutes before she has the BM, DH and I have asked her if she needed to go and she says no.

What would you do? 

isabella22

Oh, the accidents are maybe once every 1-2 weeks lately, they seem to be getting more frequent.

shouldbworkin

Is she constipated at all?  DS started doing this when he got constipated and sort of seemed to lose the sensation of needing to poop.  I started adding 1 tsp of benefiber to his morning milk and now I just put him on the potty every afternoon with his leapster.  He can't stand to be bored on the toilet.  LOL!  And, it takes him awhile to go sometimes. 

ppants

Although you don't want to punish accidents, DD was having pee accidents everyday for a week at daycare, even though she was PT'd for months.  They get a sucker at the end of the day if they've had a good day.  I told her if she didn't quit peeing her pants she wouldn't get a sucker.  She stopped immediately.  I don't know if that helps or not! 

isabella22

shouldbworkin:

Is she constipated at all?  DS started doing this when he got constipated and sort of seemed to lose the sensation of needing to poop.  I started adding 1 tsp of benefiber to his morning milk and now I just put him on the potty every afternoon with his leapster.  He can't stand to be bored on the toilet.  LOL!  And, it takes him awhile to go sometimes. 

Nope, not constipated.  She goes almost every day like clock work.  That is why most times, we know she needs to go and we ask her and she says no.  Then 3 minutes later, she poops her pants!

Halo79RN

is she using the toilet or a potty chair? 

my dd did not poop on the toilet for a while.  she needed to squat and have her feet planted well on the floor.  I would make sure , if she's using the toilet vs a potty, that her step stool is tall enough that her feet can be planted flat onto it. 

as far as more accidents (urine, I'm assuming?)... I did not see her age... but it's not uncommon in the preschool years for the child to be too busy playing and not want to "miss out" or take time away from playing to go.  just continue to praise her when she does go. offer to take her frequently or when you notice her doing the potty dance.  if it's during a video... pause it and tell her it's the character's potty time... let's all go!  she'll outgrow all of this.  now if she is going more frequently and having accidents, I'd ? a uti. 

hang in there.

isabella22

mrs_sexy:

Although you don't want to punish accidents, DD was having pee accidents everyday for a week at daycare, even though she was PT'd for months.  They get a sucker at the end of the day if they've had a good day.  I told her if she didn't quit peeing her pants she wouldn't get a sucker.  She stopped immediately.  I don't know if that helps or not! 

Hmmm... this is good!  We could do an Olivia the Pig episode before bed on days where she is accident free.  That way it isn't a 'punishment' but is an incentive to use the potty!  Thanks!

npeacock

I would start taking her back to the toilet to go, especially if you know she's going to go. LOTS of praise, and maybe a big prize for no "accidents" for x days

Maybe it's an attention thing? I'm not sure.

isabella22

Halo79RN:

is she using the toilet or a potty chair? 

my dd did not poop on the toilet for a while.  she needed to squat and have her feet planted well on the floor.  I would make sure , if she's using the toilet vs a potty, that her step stool is tall enough that her feet can be planted flat onto it. 

as far as more accidents (urine, I'm assuming?)... I did not see her age... but it's not uncommon in the preschool years for the child to be too busy playing and not want to "miss out" or take time away from playing to go.  just continue to praise her when she does go. offer to take her frequently or when you notice her doing the potty dance.  if it's during a video... pause it and tell her it's the character's potty time... let's all go!  she'll outgrow all of this.  now if she is going more frequently and having accidents, I'd ? a uti. 

hang in there.

She uses the real potty and was fine for a long time (several months).  It is only BM accidents, not pee.

DaiLyght

isabella22:

shouldbworkin:

Is she constipated at all?  DS started doing this when he got constipated and sort of seemed to lose the sensation of needing to poop.  I started adding 1 tsp of benefiber to his morning milk and now I just put him on the potty every afternoon with his leapster.  He can't stand to be bored on the toilet.  LOL!  And, it takes him awhile to go sometimes. 

Nope, not constipated.  She goes almost every day like clock work.  That is why most times, we know she needs to go and we ask her and she says no.  Then 3 minutes later, she poops her pants!

Rather than asking her if she needs to go, just tell her to go. DS1 was going regularly also, right before bed. So every night, as part of his bedtime routine, we send him to go poop.

shouldbworkin

isabella22:

shouldbworkin:

Is she constipated at all?  DS started doing this when he got constipated and sort of seemed to lose the sensation of needing to poop.  I started adding 1 tsp of benefiber to his morning milk and now I just put him on the potty every afternoon with his leapster.  He can't stand to be bored on the toilet.  LOL!  And, it takes him awhile to go sometimes. 

Nope, not constipated.  She goes almost every day like clock work.  That is why most times, we know she needs to go and we ask her and she says no.  Then 3 minutes later, she poops her pants!

I've been asking DS to keep me company in the bathroom lately vs. asking him if he has to go (that always gets a no).  Then when we get to the bathroom I ask him if he wants to go first (he usually does).  Once he's on the pot, I tell him to sit tight while I go get a book or his leapster.  That usually does the trick.  That and telling him that he can't go to kindergarten if he poops in his pants.