Shower Invite List

JessicaK87

Okay, so...my mom and cousin are throwing my baby shower. I had put together a list of people that I wanted invited to the shower...I have a very large family, and my fiance does not. Including friends - and no co-workers - there are 56 people on my invitation list! My mom also wants to invite her co-workers, and people from church. Is this way over-inviting?? I don't want to feel rude by inviting so many people, but I see no way around not inviting them.

EastCoastBride

Personally- I would hate to go to a shower that large.  I don't feel you "have" to invite the church people or your moms coworkers (I get that she's excited, but really- that just seems REALLY gift grabby.  HER coworkers?). 

You don't have to invite everyone you know.  I personally think showers should be smaller, more personal affairs anyhow.

And really- if someone from church says "Hey- are you having a shower?" you can say "OH, yes, I am.  But it's family only due to the large size of my familiy!".  Then, if any church member wants to, they can always step foward and offer to throw one for you if they want.

pam1005

I'd say that is plenty.  In my situation, my mom ended up deciding to have a shower for her friends, my old neighbors, and church friends.  Is that possible?  It is not only overwhelming for you to attend a shower that large, but also for your guests.  

DaniLovesPink

You should only invite non-family members who you are in constant, regular contact with.  Inviting someone you haven't spoken with in over a month is gift-grabby and tacky.  The only exception is family.

mysticporter

I agree that inviting your mom's coworkers and people from church is over the top.  I think anyone who is a friend of your mom's and was invited to your shower might feel like they were being invited just for a gift since they aren't close to you, and if they showed up and found a huge herd of people I think it would basically serve as confirmation for them (whether you meant it that way or not).

K.a.T.e

No way would I want a shower with that many people. 

 

Blueyezz0530

If your mom is hosting the shower, and she is paying then there really isnt much you can say IMO. More gifts for you then! lol

sheparli

I think that if that's whose on your list, then invite them. Your mom should be able to invite her friends since she's hosting. Many of them may not come anyways. Not everyone that gets an invite feels like you are just wanting a gift. Many people just want to share the day with you and your mom's friends are no exception...she is the soon to be grandma. Just enjoy spending time with who shows up and have fun!

mlkwmu

I'm only inviting people I hang out with or see on a regular basis.  People who want to send gifts after the baby is born will.

h2babe

I would consider splitting up the shower if she insists on inviting the other people (her co-workers and friends); you will be exhausted also trying to be nice and chit chat w/ that many people!

scubaspot

EastCoastBride:

Personally- I would hate to go to a shower that large.  I don't feel you "have" to invite the church people or your moms coworkers (I get that she's excited, but really- that just seems REALLY gift grabby.  HER coworkers?). 

You don't have to invite everyone you know.  I personally think showers should be smaller, more personal affairs anyhow.

And really- if someone from church says "Hey- are you having a shower?" you can say "OH, yes, I am.  But it's family only due to the large size of my familiy!".  Then, if any church member wants to, they can always step foward and offer to throw one for you if they want.

I also would have to point out the time constraints. There is no way that you are going to be able to open all those gifts and have the opprotunity to greet everyone properly in a decent amount of time. 

 

   

cajungirl0717

EastCoastBride:

Personally- I would hate to go to a shower that large.  I don't feel you "have" to invite the church people or your moms coworkers (I get that she's excited, but really- that just seems REALLY gift grabby.  HER coworkers?). 

You don't have to invite everyone you know.  I personally think showers should be smaller, more personal affairs anyhow.

And really- if someone from church says "Hey- are you having a shower?" you can say "OH, yes, I am.  But it's family only due to the large size of my familiy!".  Then, if any church member wants to, they can always step foward and offer to throw one for you if they want.

 

This. I LOVE your advice by the way ECB on the showers. It makes sense to me, and I am planning to use some of your logic!!

mrsfirefly

I think it will be painful for your guests to watch you open that many gifts. I have always enjoyed small intimate showers and not enjoyed large showers. Maybe you need to have a few smaller showers.