Please tell me what to do...

omalley

I want to cry I am so tired.  If this was happening in your house, what would you do?

Both babies go to bed at 7:00pm.  Around 9:30pm one baby starts moaning (he is not fully awake, just laying on his tummy yelling out) about every 15 minutes...this goes on for hours.  At 12:30am the moaning turns crying and he is awake now and screaming.

If I ignore him that will continue forever and he will also wake the other baby and he is even grumpier when woken up and impossible to get back to sleep.  So if this was happening in your house, what would you do?

(Since he might be teething I gave him motrin and hyland's teething tablets before bed but they obviously didn't help or it's not teething.)

omalley

let me plead my case again...

would you let him cry?  would you get him up?  would you separate them?  would you just try to ride it out?

SoldiersGreenBean

First, I'd invest in a good coffee pot 

I'm not sure how to handle the rest of it, though.  You could try separating them and seeing what happens with the grunting.  Maybe his brother is waking him from a deep sleep without knowing it.

Is he congested?  If so, maybe raising the head of the bed might help some?  Is he learning something new?  DD always slept worse when she was learning new skills.  There's also a fabled 4 mos wakeful period (I've only heard of it on thebump), so you may just have to ride it out.

If you soothe him while he's in the middle of the grunting before waking, does that help?  I mean rubbing his back or tummy, not picking him up,

omalley

SoldiersGreenBean:

First, I'd invest in a good coffee pot 

I'm not sure how to handle the rest of it, though.  You could try separating them and seeing what happens with the grunting.  Maybe his brother is waking him from a deep sleep without knowing it.

Is he congested?  If so, maybe raising the head of the bed might help some?  Is he learning something new?  DD always slept worse when she was learning new skills.  There's also a fabled 4 mos wakeful period (I've only heard of it on thebump), so you may just have to ride it out.

If you soothe him while he's in the middle of the grunting before waking, does that help?  I mean rubbing his back or tummy, not picking him up,

Thanks for replying - we are just lost.  And over loaded on coffee hahaha.  I usually try to ignore the grunting/moaning b/c I was hoping he was learning how to self sooth back to sleep but maybe if I try to comfort him then he might not get to the point where he is waking up later. 

He is much more mobile now so maybe he is waking to move and play. Thanks again for the insight.

 

jennyvag

We were just going through this in December...

 I separated the boys into two different rooms. Luke, my better sleeper, stayed in the nursery, but I moved Nolan, who was waking consistently every hour and a half to two hours, to the guest bedroom.  We decided to try the cry it out method only b/c I know his cries and he wasn't in any pain - he just wanted to be up. 

If I were in your situation, I'd try the separation just to see if the waking stops.  It could be that one baby is waking the other.  If it continues, I would try the CIO method.  I don't let Nolan cry for longer than 10 minutes before I go into the room to comfort him.  I don't pick him up though, I just rub his back or pat him.

Good luck.  I know what it feels like!  My boys were sleeping through the night just a week ago, but last night there was a relapse and Nolan was awake from 11:30 to 2:30.  Not easy for mommy!

omalley

jennyvag:

We were just going through this in December...

 I separated the boys into two different rooms. Luke, my better sleeper, stayed in the nursery, but I moved Nolan, who was waking consistently every hour and a half to two hours, to the guest bedroom.  We decided to try the cry it out method only b/c I know his cries and he wasn't in any pain - he just wanted to be up. 

If I were in your situation, I'd try the separation just to see if the waking stops.  It could be that one baby is waking the other.  If it continues, I would try the CIO method.  I don't let Nolan cry for longer than 10 minutes before I go into the room to comfort him.  I don't pick him up though, I just rub his back or pat him.

Good luck.  I know what it feels like!  My boys were sleeping through the night just a week ago, but last night there was a relapse and Nolan was awake from 11:30 to 2:30.  Not easy for mommy!

thanks Jenny!  I think James is getting a new room tonight!  I am sorry you are dealing with it and dealt with it before.

sfshawna

That sucks!!  Definitely try switching rooms so you don't risk ruining the good thing you have going with your good sleeper.  I would try letting him CIO, although I know it's no fun for anyone, and it's not a popular choice.  Good luck!