Other's boy's b'day party on DS's b'day - advice please

cranburycakes

My son's birthday is on a saturday in a couple of weeks.  His party will be the next day, Sunday.  Our neighbor's boy's birthday is earlier that week but his party will be that Saturday, my son's actual birthday.  The other boy's party will be at a kids' place that my son really enjoys going to.

 How do we avoid DS getting confused?  It's his birthday, but we're going to another kid's party - e.i. we'll be saying "happy birthday," singing, bringing a gift etc. to the other boy, even though it's DS's birthday. 

Any ideas for how to handle it? DH suggested we just don't even start celebrating DS's birthday until the other party is over (after lunch), which sounds sad to me.  My thought was just to explain to him the way it is ("your party will be tomorrow, etc.) Should I not worry about it?  DS will be 3, by the way. 

Thanks so much for any ideas  

hopefulmom

I agree with your DH.

~Kat~

I agree with your DH. My DS gets jealous at other kid's birthday parties anyway without it being his birthday too. I wouldn't mention his birthday until after the other kid's.

marchbaby

I wouldn't be able to see my son that morning and not wish him a happy birthday until after the party is over. My kids are really easy going but I think they'd be okay with me saying that its the other boys party that day but we'd be having his party the next day to celebrate his birthday.  I also might mention in passing to the mom of the other birthday boy that its my sons birthday that day.  Maybe she would have a cupcake or something for your son to blow a candle out on and they could sing happy birthday to both.