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Postpartum Depression
I just don't know what to do...
anymore. I know something is terribly wrong. But, I guess I just need a little bit of a push to go and see someone. I tell my husband about the feelings that I have and he just dismisses them. I've asked him to help find me a doctor about 2 months ago, and he has not carried through. I guess I'm afraid to do it myself because I'm admitting that I have PPD. I am admitting that I'm a failure.
I absolutely love my baby more than anything. He's such a joy, but I just can't take it anymore. I am a SAHM, my husband works 2 jobs so that I am able to stay at home with the baby. I am so thankful for this. I know my job is to take care of the baby, that's why he works so much. But, I feel so alone. My family lives 3+ hours away, I have no friends in this town because we moved here a month before the baby was born due to my husband's job. So, basically, it is me and the baby.
The past few weeks I am just so overwhelmed. I cry at least once a day. Today I think I've stopped crying for about 15 minutes. I don't think my husband knows it's as bad as it really is.
I guess if you are still reading, I just need some encouragement and advice.
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Re: I just don't know what to do...
Here you go...
::Push!::
Having PPD does not make you a failure. The PPD is just making you think you are a failure. I know it is a terrible feeling thinking you are so alone, but realize that you always have the support of the ladies on this board.
You really should go see your doctor and explain how you have been feeling. I struggled with whether or not to see a doctor myself. I suffered for longer than I needed to. I know it is tough to admit to having PPD, but talking it through with someone can actually make you feel much more accepted. My OB told me these types of feelings are far more common than you realize...it's just that no one ever wants to admit to it, so you don't hear from others with PPD.
Ask your OB or the hospital you delivered at about PPD or new mom's support groups. Talk to your DH about going to a church or community center where you can meet other married couples. Ask DH to go to your doctor's appointment with you so that he can gain an understanding of PPD, himself. Hopefully your feelings of isolation will be relieved in time.
Congratualtions on your baby boy, and good luck to you! Keep us updated on your progress!
I echo the pp's and also want you to know that there is a SAHM board as well. I SAH and it was really, really tough for me at the beginning as well. The SAHM board is super friendly and supportive and we'd love to see you over there.
**hugs**
You've gotten good advice from the pps. Call your OB and let them know how you are feeling.
Having PPD does not make you a failure. Frankly, the fact that you've muscled through for this long shows me that you are anything BUT a failure. You will feel better and you will feel better sooner if you get the help you need and deserve.
You are NOT a failure!! PPD is like watching your life from outside your body but still knowing what you are doing is not "the real you"
Great advice from the PP- especially call your OB. Also it is ok to admit you aren't happy staying home. I hated it and couldn't wait to go back to work. People looked at me like I had 5 heads but then others started to come out of the woodwork and admit they didn't like SAH either.
GL
(((hugs))))