Anyone have a live-in nanny? Or just an opinion?

mauceddie

Your experiences? We've always been anti-nanny because we prefer the kids have socialization of daycare. However, dd1 is going to kindergarten next year and I am worried about finding care for her- there are no daycare centres who cover this school. I was thinking of getting a nanny, and enrolling dd2 in preschool for socialization. There are a lot of Filipino nannies here but I feel bad because often they have children at home that they are supporting- I just don't feel right with her being away from her child to care for mine, you know?

Here, live-in (filipino) nannies run about $1800/month, live-out nannies, ruin about $2700-3000/month

My only other options are to stay home, or to put her with a babysitter/ inhome caregiver.  

 

TIA 

jorie

Maybe you could find someone who has just one child and she could bring her kid to work with her?  When I was looking for nannies, one of the applicants wanted to do that. I said no...b/c I have 3 kids that are not school age so they're all home.  And 3 kids is a big enough handful, so I didn't want her kid in my home competing (and winning) for her attention. 

However, if the applicant was right (and you'll know when you find someone) and she had just one child, I'd consider letting her bring the kid.

KellyGreen

A friend of mine has a live-in Thai au pair.  I believe the service they use is Cultural Care Au Pairs.

LanaM

We had a live-in nanny when Ethan was 4 months old until he was 21 months old and went to daycare. Most of my friends with kids have live-ins... 

Our experience was good. I personally just did not love having someone else around my house all the time, although she had an apartment she was renting with her friends and would leave for Saturday and Sunday, so we had our house to ourselves on weekends.

It was very convinient on so many levels. We never needed babysitting on weeknights. I was working back then and did not have to worry if I was stuck in traffic on the way home, or if I had to stay late at work. My kid always had a hot meal and she did his laundry. She also helped me clean the house.

All of the food and other stuff was provided by us (shampoos, soaps, etc). 

I know a couple of people who have au pairs and they have had great experience.

My nanny was older, she was in her 50's and had older kids and grandkids. it was her job.....  she was sending money to them, but it was her job. If you don't give her the job, someone else will, you know....  they need the money to support their families, so that's what they're doing.