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Can I vent here (again)?
Today I had my annual gyn exam. Last year, my gyn was all "oh yeah, have another baby, it will fine, we'll just keep a closer eye on you." Well, this appt, he came in and said "I read the MFM's recommendations and I think he's right...the risk to your life is significant and although we can try to manage another pregnancy, I can't say I think it's a good idea." This was all unsolicited, btw, in the first 2 minutes of our appt. He also said what one of you wise ladies said (Darwins, I believe), "I think we need to focus on the fact that your son needs to have a mother."
Ok, this is nothing that the other doctor didn't already say, but it was hard to hear if from him, especially b/c he is the most laid back, relaxed person on earth. I also mentioned that once DH and I come to terms with this, I wanted to consider Essure. He said I would not be a candidate for that, since he can't condone me having any medical procedures that aren't completely necessary for my health. He said "your body has been through too much as it is."
Oh, and tomorrow I find out if my mom has endometrial cancer.
And now I'm crying at my desk at work.
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Re: Can I vent here (again)?
I I'm so sorry, that has to be tough. I wish I was in Maryland to give you a hug and some chocolate right now. I'm going to pray for your mom!
(HUGS!!)
BFP #2: 9/25/08; 10/27/08 - Blighted ovum discovered, 11/5/08 - b/o confirmed
BFP #3: 1/19/09 - Chemical Pregnancy
BFP #4: 2/12/09; EDD 10/26/09 - Richie born on 9/4/09 at 4 pounds, 10 ounces
BFP #5: 5/27/11; EDD 2/4/12 - Sylvia is on her way!
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Ugh.
I wish I could come give you a real, live, big boobie smashing hug.
I'm sorry.
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LOL. They'd have to be your big boobies b/c mine are flat as a board
I ll be praying for your mom. I would be crying too but try and stay postitive.
It's hard when reality smacks you in the face. I definitely wish i could give you a bobbie smashing hug too
Oh gosh...I'm so, so sorry!! I can't believe your doc did a 180 like that?! I would've called him out on the fact that he was so positive last year and why he now agrees with the MFM- but doctors changing their mind like that ticks me off.
And I'm so sorry about your mother...there is nothing that I can say, but I do want to share with you that my grandmother had that 5 years ago (she was just in her early 60's at the time) and it was Stage 2. SHe had a hyst. and a few rounds of radiation (for prevention) and she has been in remission since. The doctors told us it is one of the easier/more curable cancers to treat if caught early.
I'm hoping it's only good news for your mom!!!
Oh hon, I'm so sorry you got a big dose of reality smacked on you today. What a rough day
{{{big ol hugs}}}
I'm so sorry your day is so rotten. I will keep you and your mom in my prayers. Hoping you can update us tomorrow with good news. (((HUGS)))
hugs to you!
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I would join in teh boob smashing hugs, but I'd cover you in boobjuice and I don't think you'd like that.
That must have been really hard to hear from your doc, esp unsolicited like that. Would you consider getting a second or third or fourth opinion?
As far as your mother goes, as hard as this may seem, try to stay positive. I went through waiting a week and a half to find out if I had a brain tumor once, and that was soooo hard. I'll keep you and your family in my T&P.