DH is feeling the time crunch *a little long

themathgirl

We are 33 weeks today, and the boys will be here in 5 weeks at the most! While that seems crazy to me, I am super excited and am looking forward to meeting these little guys inside me. I'm also feeling that we're pretty well prepared for their homecoming. The things that are left to do are not huge and we can get them done IMO with not much stress.

However, last night DH and I ended up in a big fight (we don't fight much) because he wanted me to get the car cleaned today. I told him I wasn't sure if I'd be up to it tomorrow (which is today now), and before I could tell him I'd do it either friday or next week he starts in, "Well it has to be done before they get here! I guess we can just have a dirty car then if you don't care, because I don't have time to do it!" It really surprised me. I could not get him to calm down long enough to hear me out, he kept thinking I was telling him he had to do it not me... Anyway, I finally stopped talking so he'd calm down. When he was calm enough to listen I asked, "Are you mad because you feel like I am going to get more uncomfortable as time goes and I won't be able to do things?" He admitted yes (big step!). Then I tried to explain, which he accepted thank goodness, that it's easier for me physically to space out the activities than to do a bunch at once, and I promised I'd get the car cleaned before next week.

I think it's cute that he is actually concerned about me and that he's feeling like the babies will be here soon. However, I don't like having these fights! I hope we can figure out a way to talk it out better next time...

Anyone else in a similar situation??? 

BitterOldHag

Nope we were the reverse. He kept acting like we had tons of time and putting things off when I knew we couldn't wait.

That's why I went into labor at 36w3d on my first day of ML because I was organizing cabinets (seated) and doing light cleaning instead of resting.

AlishaMay

I'm definitely feeling the crunch more than DH, but I he doesn't seem to get the fact that I need to spread out tasks, rather than take a day to get everything done.  It is really frustrating to not feel like you can do as much as you used to, but this too shall pass, and it certainly won't last forever.  I keep reminding him of this, and it seems to help.  I also let him know that I'm trying my best to pull my own weight around here, but I just need to do it in a different way than I have in the past.  So far this has worked for us.  GL!

carrielynn911

My DH completely flipped out on me last week, telling me that I am totally unappreciative of everything he does.  He had been pretty snappy with me for about a month before that.   It took a couple of days before we could talk it out calmly.  I told him that I am appreciative, and I do tell him that so what did he want me to do.  He didn't have an answer.  He just said he's been under a lot of stress.  I think it was just his way of freaking out b/c the babies will be here really soon.  He has been overly sweet and affectionate since and seems truly excited about the girls.

I have no idea how to handle it better.  At least you didn't waste a few days trying to calm down enough to talk...