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Support/custody hearing tomorrow

ShanJosh777ShanJosh777 member
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Gah.  We have come to a verbal agreement so we shouldn't have to go through the actual hearing.  But of course STBX could show up and say he changed his mind.  Wouldn't surprise me one bit.  I am getting really nervous.  I'm mostly worried that I am going to cry for some reason.  Not out of sadness.... but I tend to get over-emotional when talking about DS's future. 

Anyone been through this already?  Any advice on how to not break down in the middle of court?

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Re: Support/custody hearing tomorrow

  • peeps61308peeps61308 member
    No advice, just wishing you good luck!
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  • nbjenninbjenni
    Good luck. Can't wait for mine to be over and done with.
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  • BabyMenzelBabyMenzel
    imageShanJosh777:

    Gah.  We have come to a verbal agreement so we shouldn't have to go through the actual hearing.  But of course STBX could show up and say he changed his mind.  Wouldn't surprise me one bit.  I am getting really nervous.  I'm mostly worried that I am going to cry for some reason.  Not out of sadness.... but I tend to get over-emotional when talking about DS's future. 

    Anyone been through this already?  Any advice on how to not break down in the middle of court?

    I cried and I cried a lot at our support hearing. Don't worry about it if you do. DS' dad really has no clue how hard and how broke ds and I were at that time and every time he said anything I kept getting more angry (everything he said was lies) and it all came to a head when the magistrate asked me if I had anything else to say before we were done, and I let it all spill out.

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  • ootmother2ootmother2

    Good luck and stay calm with your attorney & stbx.

     "In the halls of justice, justice is ofter made in the halls"

     

    You could be back and forth with your attorney coming to you will a suggestion and you have to reply through him formally.  Don't create needless legal fees if you can negotiate some points yourselves.

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  • fauxshelleyfauxshelley member

    We never had to go to court.  We agreed on everything and just signed the papers.  Not sure how I got that lucky.  I think I would cry in the courtroom also, just from stress.  Hopefully your stbxh will not change his mind and it will all go smoothly.  Please update us when you can. 

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  • sweetie0228sweetie0228 member

    You have to get to a point where you can pretend it's not you and your family you're talking about.  The only way I stay calm is realizing he has no power over me and pretend I am there to be the advocate for someone else.

    You have to stay calm and in control but you don't have to come of aloof.  You will be taken more sereriously by the judge.

    Don't look at your ex, don't say anything to him and always talk directly to the judge if you are required to. 

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