Here's one for you -

Mama_SAS

I am not now pg or having a shower but I thought I'd throw this out as an etiquette question that I have often come up against and will again.

As we know TY notes need to be sent via snail mail and handwritten. I have severe problems with my right wrist (cysts on tendons, atrophied ligaments, it is a mess). So after my wedding and shower my TY notes went out very slowly as it hurts to write out a check, much less numerous notes.They were handwritten and went out, but it took a looooong time.

Typing does not hurt but holding a pen, holding a glass, steering wheel, stroller handle, basically gripping anything is excruciating, even with my brace on.

 So, armed with that knowledge, would it be bad form to type my TYs? Obviously I would write each separately with a personal message but without all the pain and then they could go out on time.

Just wondering what ya think on that one. TIA

RoxyLynn

I would imagine that everyone who knows you well enough to be invited to your shower also knows you well enough to know about the situation with dexterity in your right hand.

By all means type the notes.  Your family and friends love you and do not want you to suffer.

megdrew1218

RoxyLynn:

I would imagine that everyone who knows you well enough to be invited to your shower also knows you well enough to know about the situation with dexterity in your right hand.

By all means type the notes.  Your family and friends love you and do not want you to suffer.

This. Only because of your special circumstances.

danilynn17

Why couldn't your husband help write the thank you notes?  The gifts were for him as well. 

And assuming that you have a baby shower one day when you're pregnant, the gifts will be for his child, so he has just as much responsibility for thanking people as you do.

Mama_SAS

danilynn17:

Why couldn't your husband help write the thank you notes?  The gifts were for him as well. 

And assuming that you have a baby shower one day when you're pregnant, the gifts will be for his child, so he has just as much responsibility for thanking people as you do.

He did help, but I still had a lot to write.

EastCoastBride

RoxyLynn:

I would imagine that everyone who knows you well enough to be invited to your shower also knows you well enough to know about the situation with dexterity in your right hand.

By all means type the notes.  Your family and friends love you and do not want you to suffer.

Ditto this.  I wouldn't think twice about it if I got a TY note from you that was typed.

Lauryn216

Can't your H write them?

DaniLovesPink

I would, personally, have DH write them.  While these people should know you well enough to be privy to this medical condition, there are several people who have a hard time moving, yet come to showers.  But, since this is for your baby, and DH's, I would have him write the notes, you can dictate.

nooniesgal

In your situation, as long as it is definitely personal and specific, I wouldn't think twice.   I think having your H write them for anyone in the "older" crowd would probably be a good thing though since they would be more traditional.   I am assuming it will be printed, signed by you and mailed snail mail

serarose

What most others have said.  Anyone who knows and loves you enough to come to a special party in your honor would know that it was your situation that warranted the typing.  (And if your H wants to help, cool, by why let others suggest he get all the fun - or am I the only weird one who enjoys writing my own thank you notes - simply to follow the letter rather than the spirit of the social norm?)  As a collector of antique and vintage etiquette books myself, the main point that seems to be emphasized across the centuries is that manners exist to make it easy and pleasant for us to all get along, and I really can't see how accommodating your writing difficulties would be offensive to anyone.