Because I cant wait until Unpop Op thursday...

Mrs.Carlybella

my Unpop Op is that this is a never ending debate and I think it is silly to even post about.  There are the die hard, I will never do it, "I love my baby too much" opinions, and there are the die hard, it is the best thing I ever did, it is healthier for both of us opinions.

 

my opinion-  everyone do what is right for them. 

we did sleep training.   Some nights he was in there for an hour or more-  never, ever did he cry for an hour straight,  he just goes off and on, off and on..

manda_mullins

NY-allie:

Why is it when someone posts that they don't agree with CIO everyone jumps on them.  Not agreeing with CIO does not mean that we think everyone who does it is a horrible mother.  It just means that I choose alternative methods. 

ETA: Shween I'm glad you posted this.  

 

for the most part i saw people in this post agreeing with shween. i don't think anyone was jumping on her.

this is the internet. we can say what we want lol. and i guarantee shween posted this to liven the board up, which it did thankfully.

if you don't think it makes people bad mothers, then don't say things like "i love my kid too much to let him CIO". How else were we supposed to take that statement (until you clarified)?

WannaBeHiking

? Shween ?:

WannaBeHiking:

? Shween ?:

WannaBeHiking:

...I think it's a lot easier to have the opinion that CIO is horrible if you have a child who has slept through the night from 3 months (even if they stopped at some point). Nearly a year of sleep deprivation is NOT healthy for anyone (mom or baby) and learning how to sleep is an important skill.

Just for the record, and not to be confrontational, I suffer from insomnia, so I know full well what sleep deprivation does to a person. I'm going on 3 years of not sleeping for any more than a 4-hr stretch at a time. It's not healthy, and even when I was put on sleep meds, they didn't work, and I was awake... hallucinating. 

Right, so if you know how unhealthy it is, how can you judge parents who don't want that unhealthiness for themselves or their children?

I am sorry you suffer from insomnia and not being able to have medication that helps, I can relate to the misery of not being able to sleep.

I'm actually not judging any parent for choosing to do CIO. When I think about babies crying themselves to sleep, it makes me all emo & sad. I can't listen to my baby cry, but whatever you do with your kid is your thing.  

Well, saying something is a "terrible thing to do to your child" sounds awfully judgy, no? Anyway, I'm off to bed. This could go on forever.

? Shween ?

manda_mullins:

...this is the internet. we can say what we want lol. and i guarantee shween posted this to liven the board up, which it did thankfully....

 

Pumpkin111

? Shween ?:

Pumpkin111:

Hey, as long as you stay the hell out of the posts of the ladies that have decided to take that route and are asking for help.. I don't care what you think!

Happy to say I don't think I've ever once posted in any CIO posts - that's why I created my own. LOL 

But if you could also refrain from soundling like a judgy dum dum on the subject.. that may help also! 

tia!

ETA: If you could put this in your OP... that would help with the above suggestion. 

? Shween ?:

I'm actually not judging any parent for choosing to do CIO. When I think about babies crying themselves to sleep, it makes me all emo & sad. I can't listen to my baby cry, but whatever you do with your kid is your thing.  

CheekyMommy

NY-allie:

Why is it when someone posts that they don't agree with CIO everyone jumps on them.  Not agreeing with CIO does not mean that we think everyone who does it is a horrible mother.  It just means that I choose alternative methods. 

ETA: Shween I'm glad you posted this.  

Why is it when someone needs encouragement on CIO, someone feels it's necessary to bash it in another post immediately following? Seriously - some of us are sitting here listening to our babies cry and hanging by a thread and then we come across a post like this and it shakes the very little piece of ground we're standing on. Reading this honestly made me feel like a bad mother. I know what I'm doing is right - but reading posts like these do make me doubt. As if my decision wasn't hard enough.

But - to each their own. It's a public message board. Just how my CIO post made Shween sad, her post made me feel sad too. It's all part of a public message board. We'll both get over it (I hope) because we're adults and will find more in common in the fact that we are mothers.

:::Shween, I still love you.:::

MarriedBestFriends

DD won't allow us to rock her to sleep anymore. Yes, we sleep trained at almost 6 months, but she never STTN. Instead she learned to put herself to sleep. Tonight she was overtired and I tried to let her lay her head on me and rock her calmly before bed, but she screamed even harder and practically threw herself in the direction of her crib. She almost always cries for a few minutes before falling asleep- even if she's spent 30 minutes talking to her bear prior to that. I honestly believe that some children need to cry to release something--whether it be the day's energy or whatever. 

mavilabride

I guess my unpop opinion is that once a mother enters what most methods consider an "appropriate" age (typically 6 months) that mother is well within her rights to do as she sees fit for her family. It doesn't matter what that method is (rocking, nursing, CIO, etc) as long as she does her research to do things correctly. I never had to with DD. We agreed on an age where we would try CIO and in the meantime we would let her do what she does when she does it. She has been STTN for about 3 weeks now but I go to bed expecting her to wake up at least once and being pleasantly surprised in the morning lol.

BitterOldHag

I PPH you Shween.

And here's my thought on CIO, flame if you will. I can't believe its worth it to know the reason your BABY is STTN is because they've figured out that if they cry at night no one is coming to hold them.  It's unbelievably sad to me.

I may have only gotten 2 hours of sleep last night but at least my boys know I'll be there if they cry.

CalinsBride

BitterOldHag:

I PPH you Shween.

And here's my thought on CIO, flame if you will. I can't believe its worth it to know the reason your BABY is STTN is because they've figured out that if they cry at night no one is coming to hold them.  It's unbelievably sad to me.

I may have only gotten 2 hours of sleep last night but at least my boys know I'll be there if they cry.

Thinking about this crushes me.

But like everything, there are exceptions, a la Manda Mullins. I read her posts for months and as anti CIO as I am, she had No Choice. There are times CIO is necessary to be a good mother.

albl508

BitterOldHag:

I PPH you Shween.

And here's my thought on CIO, flame if you will. I can't believe its worth it to know the reason your BABY is STTN is because they've figured out that if they cry at night no one is coming to hold them.  It's unbelievably sad to me.

I may have only gotten 2 hours of sleep last night but at least my boys know I'll be there if they cry.

 

albl508

BitterOldHag:

I PPH you Shween.

And here's my thought on CIO, flame if you will. I can't believe its worth it to know the reason your BABY is STTN is because they've figured out that if they cry at night no one is coming to hold them.  It's unbelievably sad to me.

I may have only gotten 2 hours of sleep last night but at least my boys know I'll be there if they cry.