This post irritates me

LUCKY41010

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/29614328.aspx

Sorry

TriciaJoy

I just have to tell myself over and over and over again that they have no idea what the other option is.

::counts to 10:: 

 

lemen99

Ditto Trish. 

Super irritating.

Jennyjenz

i hear ya!

How are you feeling, btw? 

 

lemen99

I'm always so tempted to respond to those posts, but I don't, because I figure they don't know any better.

LUCKY41010

Jennyjenz:

i hear ya!

How are you feeling, btw? 

 

I am doing great...I went shopping the other day for 3 hours and no pain..LOL.Sorry had to.....Just praying for each day to go by with out excitement...I only have 6 weeks from Thursday...I wish I had about 20 more just to spend more time with just dh,ds and I...   

LUCKY41010

lemen99:

I'm always so tempted to respond to those posts, but I don't, because I figure they don't know any better.

I came REALLY close to responding....

goblue

It irritates me and it scares me, which is probably irrational. I had severe polyhydramnios (exccssive amniotic fluid) which lead to pPROM and PTL, etc, etc.  At 25 weeks "my stomach felt like it was going to explode," and I was "measuring big."

I just feel like I know so much now that I never wanted to know...

mcdev

It's all relative.

I don't think she means any harm.  She (fortunately) doesn't know any different.

Mrs. Destructo

aw crap! I posted a mean response with a pic of a 29 weeker I found with a google search, and changed my mind the second I hit the post button.

 Now the stupid nest won't let me delete it! AGH!

Mrs. Destructo

FFS!! Somebody C&P my post already.

 I need to pull my temper in check.

Mrs. Destructo

huh. I was finally able to delete my post and it deleted where somebody else C&P me being a big fat B. I had no idea the nest/bump did that.

I'm glad. I was out of line and just too mean. Those very lucky women have no idea how blessed they are to be feeling uncomfortable. I wish we all could be so naive.

clyoungsey

LUCKY41010:

lemen99:

I'm always so tempted to respond to those posts, but I don't, because I figure they don't know any better.

I came REALLY close to responding....

you are a better person than me.  When I was on bedrest and KNEW I was going to have a preemie, just didn't know how pre, I responded to every post like this.  irritated...to say the least

beachykeen1723

I was going to do the same thing as Mrs. D, but I need to play nice. At 30 weeks I felt huge, and complained that I was ready to be done, but I was retaining 30 lbs of water and my liver was failing, so I like to think in my stupidity I get an little excuse...

TriciaJoy

don't worry about it, MrsD. If you couldn't have deleted, I'd have come and backed you up. You know I'm always down for spreading the bitchiness around.

beachykeen1723

I responded nicely. Cooper is being Mr. Grumpy Pants and I felt intitled to remind them how lucky they are. I thought I was nice...

mcdev

There have been plenty of posts like these that have driven me nutso, but this isn't one of them.  This girl is simply complaining about feeling uncomfortable and tired, not wishing for her pregnancy to end.  She's on the third tri board.  That seems like the appropriate place to make such complaints.  I feel like that is the equivalent to us complaining that our preemies are delayed or not growing adequately and it offending someone on the Pregnancy Loss board.  We're all on our boards looking for support from people who "get it".  I feel like (in this case anyway) that's all this girl was doing.

TriciaJoy

Complaining about being miserable is one thing. I mean, pain is pain.. it sucks.

But "I'm just done" 

 and "I am so eager for him to be here and to be done being pregnant."

 

That kinda twists the knife in my heart, honestly.

TriciaJoy

I weighed in.

I'm really glad I didn't make that new year's resolution to STFU. 

mcdev

I didn't see that in her post.  Maybe that was written in the comments that followed because I didn't read all of them.  Aw crap, now I have to go back and see what I missed!

ShanaNChris

So. Irritated. by this post...but, ignorance is bliss, I guess.

I wanted to say to the poster who said "I'm sure none of you complained about anything"....

actually I think *most* of us were in a lot more pain and were a lot more uncomfortable then they were...

I don't know...does bedrest with a cathetar in the hospital for 3 weeks, wearing the monitors, while your liver is enlarged, making it extremely hard to breath, getting a picc line put in your arm, and your blood pressure is up, on mag, yet using all the strength you can summons to get this baby just one more hour - count?

oh, and I forgot to mention a painful blood clot, a seizre and 2 blood transfusions.

I wasn't complaining though

ABColeslaw

mcdev:

It's all relative.

I don't think she means any harm.  She (fortunately) doesn't know any different.

  Yeah they just don't know any better.  While I also haven't had a preemie, the constant fear of having one and being at high risk for delivering early...plus lurking on this board has given me a different perspective.  When I see posts like the one above I just ignore them. 

murfygirl

Until you have been through either I don't think you can understand.  Also OP never mentioned she wanted her LO right now. Its not like she came to the preemie board and asked if she could join you all because she was just so over being pregnant!

KellyMichelle

I responded too.  I really didn't want to, but it just came out. 

*Note to self: stay away from the trimester boards*

Bippy798

I was further along than her when I had Aiden 6 days ago so I am pretty sure I understand. Boy what I would give to go back to being uncomfortably pregnant. Wish I could explain how hard it is to watch your baby with tubes everywhere, even breathing for him, and not even be able to hold him. Hell I didn't even get to see him until 26 hours after his birth.

But I guess I have it better since I am not uncomfortable and pregnant anymore . . .

murfygirl

Bippy798:

I was further along than her when I had Aiden 6 days ago so I am pretty sure I understand. Boy what I would give to go back to being uncomfortably pregnant. Wish I could explain how hard it is to watch your baby with tubes everywhere, even breathing for him, and not even be able to hold him. Hell I didn't even get to see him until 26 hours after his birth.

But I guess I have it better since I am not uncomfortable and pregnant anymore . . .

No one said you had it better I said we can't understand! And its true we can't and at 31 weeks she is tired I was too and I am even more at almost 37. We all know its best for LO to stay put and want LO to stay put but pretty sure we can at least complain on a 3rd tri board meant for women to share their thoughts, questions and complaints. Its not like we come over here and tell you all how lucky you are because trust me I don't think thats the case at all!

Bippy798

Forgive me. I am exhausted from being in the NICU at all times possible, pumping at all hours of the day and night, and just generally being stressed. Ignore me if I am a little bitchy.

AFwife1106

murfygirl:

 

Its not like we come over here and tell you all how lucky you are because trust me I don't think thats the case at all! 

wtf is that supposed to mean?  I really hope I'm reading that wrong.

At1stsight

MrsDeLaVara:

murfygirl:

 

Its not like we come over here and tell you all how lucky you are because trust me I don't think thats the case at all! 

wtf is that supposed to mean?  I really hope I'm reading that wrong.

She's just saying that she feels we don't need to tell them not to complain on their board bc they're not trying to say they want to join us and they don't lurk over here and say 'you're so lucky you had your babies early.' She's emphasizing that she DOESN'T want to have her baby prematurely and doesn't think that's lucky.

FWIW, I actually agree that we shouldn't post on 3rd tri boards (at least not to this particular type of post). There's a lot of emotion we feel, naturally, when we hear ppl complain about later pg discomforts, but I don't think they need constant reminders of how bad it truly could be.  Esp. if they're not actually saying they want the baby to arrive early or that they want to try to induce an early labor (those posts deserve a warning about the NICU and such).

AFwife1106

At1stsight:

MrsDeLaVara:

murfygirl:

 

Its not like we come over here and tell you all how lucky you are because trust me I don't think thats the case at all! 

wtf is that supposed to mean?  I really hope I'm reading that wrong.

She's just saying that she feels we don't need to tell them not to complain on their board bc they're not trying to say they want to join us and they don't lurk over here and say 'you're so lucky you had your babies early.' She's emphasizing that she DOESN'T want to have her baby prematurely and doesn't think that's lucky.

FWIW, I actually agree that we shouldn't post on 3rd tri boards (at least not to this particular type of post). There's a lot of emotion we feel, naturally, when we hear ppl complain about later pg discomforts, but I don't think they need constant reminders of how bad it truly could be.  Esp. if they're not actually saying they want the baby to arrive early or that they want to try to induce an early labor (those posts deserve a warning about the NICU and such).

thanks for explaining that, because I was not getting it.  

I dont even look over there because I would get too upset.. so I just avoid the issue. 

beachykeen1723

Well, that got nasty!

*KatieH*

Eh I can see both sides. Yes I would have loved to know the pain, stretch marks, being miserable and all of that.  But just because I didn't doesn't mean they shouldn't get to complain.   And trust me I didn't always feel this way and still some days I don't but on Christmas my sil and I were talking about being pregnant and she opened my eyes to the other side lol.  

msalinardi@live.com

I still want to beat the S*** out of the one girl who said we should "shut up" and "quit our bitching." Made me SOOOOOOO mad! Don't get me wrong...I am so going to complain when I get huge, but come on...lets not be a complete idiot!

KYmama9286

Im so glad that somebody finally said something on the 3rd tri board--yes I get it that towards the end you are uncomfortable and excited to meet your baby but lately i feel like every post on there is someone complaining or wishing they could be induced early or being upset that *gasp* they are 2 days from their EDD and still no baby! (please note the sarcasm) while that board is supposed to be for women in their 3rd tri to be a place to vent, ask questions, etc. NOT everybody in their 3rd tri feels comfortable doing so--I am in my 3rd tri, stuck on hospital bedrest and I know I am going to have a preemie (extreme IUGR) I pray everyday for little buddy to stay put--what about us 3rd tri'ers that dont fit in w/ the "typical" other 3rd tri moms...if I vented the way I want to vent (which would be a similar response to the ones given by the preemie moms) I know I would be flamed...guess Ill just stay on my high risk pregnancy board... (and here..I like you guys already  )

beachykeen1723

skyllingstadl:

Im so glad that somebody finally said something on the 3rd tri board--yes I get it that towards the end you are uncomfortable and excited to meet your baby but lately i feel like every post on there is someone complaining or wishing they could be induced early or being upset that *gasp* they are 2 days from their EDD and still no baby! (please note the sarcasm) while that board is supposed to be for women in their 3rd tri to be a place to vent, ask questions, etc. NOT everybody in their 3rd tri feels comfortable doing so--I am in my 3rd tri, stuck on hospital bedrest and I know I am going to have a preemie (extreme IUGR) I pray everyday for little buddy to stay put--what about us 3rd tri'ers that dont fit in w/ the "typical" other 3rd tri moms...if I vented the way I want to vent (which would be a similar response to the ones given by the preemie moms) I know I would be flamed...guess Ill just stay on my high risk pregnancy board... (and here..I like you guys already  )

Aww, we like you too!

Bippy798

I probably should not have gone off the deep end but I got a little emotional. Probably because before Aiden was born i had already started complaining to DH that I was soooo uncomfortable. Makes me feel like a dumbass for complaining now. 

TriciaJoy

I still say there is a difference between "damn, my belly hurts" and "I'm so done with this pregnancy."

DONE WITH THIS PREGNANCY?

Screw you.

Oh, and as for an excuse to be bitchy, I stayed up too late playing on facebook and had to get up extra early to call work and see what time I was supposed to be here because I forgot to check the schedule.

Or maybe it's just because I'm a biitch all the time.

beachykeen1723

I agree with Tricia- and Bippy is excused.  Those girls are ignorant to how blessed they are, and I hope they remain that way.

Although, my first thought when that chick responded to this post was "How dare she invade our board!" lol

 

LUCKY41010

I am sorry I started all this....I just need to stop going on that board and I think I will be much happier...It is just getting so close to when Cooper was born that I just want to b*tch slap the ignorance out of them....They just need to suck it up....I would love to see what some of them say when it is there second baby and they are chasing after a 16 month old...They are just immature..that's all.. 

*Sweet pea*

WOW!

JessAndi

msalinardi@live.com:

I still want to beat the S*** out of the one girl who said we should "shut up" and "quit our bitching." Made me SOOOOOOO mad! Don't get me wrong...I am so going to complain when I get huge, but come on...lets not be a complete idiot!

Me too.  That's the one that really got my blood boiling.  That person only had 20 posts or something so it had to be an AE - I seriously had a huge angry reply typed out and then had to just close the window and walk away before I hit post.