I have a juicy PABST.

JenniC1135

But it's not about anyone on here.  Here goes.  We'll see if I feel better once I get it all out.

 

I fuckinghate my best friend.  We've been BFs for 25ish years, pretty much from the day we met.  But she had a baby a yr ago, and from the minute she got pregnant, she went batshitcrazy.  She's become a selfishbitch who treats everyone around her like dirt.  She couldn't drink when she was pregnant (not that it stopped her from drinking a 6 pack of O'Douls whenever the mood struck,) so her DH was a raging alcoholic anytime he wanted a beer.  She had the baby and broke her ankle 3 months later.  Her DH did EVERYTHING while she sat on her ass and got fatter for the next three months.  She rarely held the baby, wouldn't get up at night to feed him, etc.  She always had an excuse.   She bitchesnon-stop about financial issues and how much of a deadbeat her two-job-working DH is when it comes to paying for baby supplies (and he is, pays for nothing), but she's also trying to have another baby, which she publicly announced on facebook (so klassy.)  I've seen her kid all of 3 times - we live an hour away, and every time has been because I piled up my THREE kids in the car and drove to their side of town.  She bailed on all my kids' birthdays this year, our annual holiday party with our group of closest friends last yr when she was ktfu (I know it was bc she was pissed she'd be the only one who couldn't drink) and again this yr because her MIL was in town.  But she did manage to go out to a bar that night, letting her hated MIL watch the baby.  Shebitches that she never gets a break, yet for the 2nd weekend in a row, she's out seeing our favorite band from 10 years ago.  She gets free daycare from her mom and has a brother and SIL who take the kid overnight.  Yeah, no help there.  And, referencing the earlier financial issue, why the eff are you out spending money in a bar when you overdraw your bank account every month and have had your vehicle repossessed in the last 2 years?  She lies about stupidshit, blaming anyone else when she bows out of something, telling one friend she did X and saw Y the other day and then denying it to another of us.  Hmm, let's add in some recreational narcotic use while said child is sleeping, and the fact that she knows she needs some happy pills and won't look into it, and seriously?  I'm done. DONE.  I cannot continue this friendship for my own sanity.  It kills me to think of not having her as a friend after 25 years, but it's killing me to stick with her too at this point.

 

Not sure I feel better.  And I'll probably DD later just in case she stalks me on here.

JenniC1135

Rereading makes me realize this all sounds like a major alcohol addiction issue.  That's part of it, but she a miserable painintheass when she's sober, which is most of the time, as well.

stillhoping

I think you are right about walking away from the friendship.

kevschickee2

WOW

eclaires

Eek, that's awful!  I'm sorry that you have to deal with that; she sounds heinous.

It sucks to lose a friendship like that - someone you've known forever.

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you are def NOT the person Mominator was talking about

what was she like in the past? just curious.

JOEBunny

I can't really take people like that.  I have a friend who I have been friends with for 30 years, and she has some similar issues, but she doesn't complain about them, and there in lies the rub.  I would not toss away her friendship if she did start whining about them, but I would definitely back off.

JenniC1135

In the past she was normal.  Funny, fun to hang out with, a little on the selfish side but cared about others, didn't seem to believe the world revolved around her, partied but not to an extreme.  We still talk every single day and after I let her know how I feel about something once, I just keep my mouth shut and let her spout off.  I keep hoping her hormones or crazy will balance itself and she'll be herself again.  I always said I could never live with her because we are just a little Odd Couple in that way, but I never saw her as toxic until the last yr.

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JenniC1135:

In the past she was normal.  Funny, fun to hang out with, a little on the selfish side but cared about others, didn't seem to believe the world revolved around her, partied but not to an extreme.  We still talk every single day and after I let her know how I feel about something once, I just keep my mouth shut and let her spout off.  I keep hoping her hormones or crazy will balance itself and she'll be herself again.  I always said I could never live with her because we are just a little Odd Couple in that way, but I never saw her as toxic until the last yr.

any contact with her sibs or family in terms of her changing behavior? 

I know what you mean about talking to her every day as I think it becomes habit -- I have a friend that is not anything like yours, but she was so self-absorbed that honestly, it was exhausting -- I existed for her only to hear about her life. I am not sure how much of a 'bump' it's made in her life now that I am rarely in contact!  I wonder if your friend will even notice or question you if you back away from the friendship.