It shouldn't but this hurts my feelings

sarahkelly

Hi girls. I just want to get this off of my chest in a "safe" place.

Sadie is really sick for the first time in her life (we're very lucky in that respect!), has bronchitis and is on amoxil, but she wants nothing to do with me if Marco is home.

Last night she was up from 2-5 just feeling crappy. Marco took her first and I got up at 3 so he could get some sleep too, to "take over" holding and consoling her. As soon as she saw me she started crying, I took her anyway and he went to bed. She continued to cry and thrash (not just wimper but really cry) until I put her down and then she walked in to our bedroom and crawled up on our bed and laid across Marco's chest, content as ever. I tried taking her back and she started the whole dramatic "oh my god don't take me away from my Papa" cry again. He ended up getting back up (even though he just got home from work at 12.30 and didn't sleep yet) with her until 4.30 because she just wants him. When I took her at 4.30 she cried again but at that point was so tired she eventually passed out.

I know it shouldn't hurt my feelings but it really does. I'm really glad she's so close with Marco but throw me a freaking bone here too.

And I know it's not that she doesn't like me or whatever because when she is at Oma and Opa's house she's the same way, won't let my MIL near her but Opa can. She just has a "thing" for the men I guess.  

desabean

I can totally understand that hurting your feelings but I'm sure when she's herself again she's going to want her mommy. Hang in there! On another note whoa! She is all grown up- you need to come around more often ; )

Mr.&MrsS

I know what you are going through, Brady used to do the same thing. He loved me until the minute Dada walked through the door and then he wanted nothing to do with me. He would cry if DH even left the room. I was so sad, it hurt my feelings, and I would cry about it. But then I learned that he goes through phases and he does that with me sometimes too and he will only want me. Just remember, she is little and she will go thrugh phases...but you are her Mommy, she loves you and no one will ever be able to replace you. Before you know it she will be on a Mommy kick!! Good luck!!

EastCoastBride

I definitely get the pull at the heart when your baby shows a preference for the otehr parent.  but just try to keep in mind it's a phase and it's NORMAL!  it's nothing personal, it's just a part of their development!

beebe929

We have the same issue.  It makes me sad and DH likes to rub it in.  I bet it will change for all of us. 

Hang in there.  And enjoy your sleep! 

Mrs.OL

I'm so sorry.  Babies are SO fussy when they are sick.  They want what they want.  Once she is feeling better she will want her mommy and she'll make up for the lost cuddle time.

SeaSoul

We are dealing with the opposite - Cal only wants me, and not just when he's sick!  He is such a mama's boy right now!  It's hard on me...a lot of pressure.  Especially in the night. - I wouldn't mind sleeping once in a while, you know?  But I'm sure if he were partial to DH it would make me feel bad.  There's no winning! 

As an aside, I am glad to see that Sadie is partial to her dad b/c we have the donor thing in common, and there was an itsy bitsy part of me that wondered if that had anything to do w/ his partiality to me.

I sure hope she feels better soon, and warms back up to you!