My Hostess backed out...

MyOwnLady

I had a lady that was throwing my shower for me. I told her I would do the invitations, since I already had them. So I sent them out. The hostess was going to bring the cake, and prizes, etc. Now, the hostess tells me she has another party to go to on the same day, and that's family, so she won't be able to make it to my party!!!! So now, I'm basically throwing my own shower. I have some games and stuff, but I don't know what I'm going to do for prizes...should I do party favors as well? Any ideas would be greatly appreciated!!!

sweetestlove

Do you have any friends or family that could step in as host? This is SO not fair that she did this, but maybe if you explained it to a close friend/family member they would step up??

fabulistbride

I agree with the previous poster. Good luck!

EastCoastBride

Well, was she listed as the hostess on the invitations?  If so, don't worry about it.  The day of your shower just briefly say "Unfortunately my wonderful hostess had a last minute conflict and couldn't be here."

Period.  No one needs to know what the conflict is, no one needs to know what she did or didn't do to help you get ready.  She's still the hostess in name and people won't think you're throwing your own shower.

However, for the record, I  think she's pretty lame.  I dont' get where family parties trump already previously made plans.

DaniLovesPink

If your host has backed out, I would retract the invitations, starting with your close family and branching outwards.  I would call each person and say, "Unfortunately, the hostess is unable to host my shower, as another commitment has arisen and I'm going to need to cancel."  This will allow you to cancel and not host your own shower, but also give people a chance to step up and take over those duties without being pressured to do so.  You should not be hosting your own shower.  Cancel it before it comes to that.  Also, tell that friend to fck off.  She had a prior commitment and family or not, should be at your shower, since she had obligated herself to it.

ToBeFrank

Canceling in the name of not throwing your own shower is a bit extreme. Especially since the invites already were sent out.

I will totally call someone out as a tackhead for throwing their own shower but in this case, give me a break. The show must go on. Hopefully OP has a friend or family member she is close enough to in order to explain the situation instead of playing these silly "let me cancel and see if someone steps up" games.

 

 

ocho2002

Agree.  I don't believe in throwing your own shower, but in this case, its not your fault.  East Coast said it right - you don't have to tell anyone why she's not there, just that soemthing came up and she can't be there.  As for favors, you don't have to have them.  If you want to do something, candies are always nice and not too expensive. At lease people will eat them.

Sorry this happened to you.  Your "friend" seems like a real jerk. Enjoy your shower.

nooniesgal

Just tell a friend you need to borrow her to look pretty and greet guests .  That is so horrible that your hostess backed out.  I wouldn't cancel it but see if you can get some friends, a cousin, an aunt to jump in and explain the situation. 

masseyva

I've been reading lots of boards regarding baby showers and they are funny. Whats the big hang up on making sure people know that you are not hosting your own baby shower?  A shower is a time family, friends and co-workers come to shower you with gifts, stories and blessings in regards to children. Lots of people host their own weddings or at least pay for some of it  right, but you cant host your own shower? Lots of people have been hit hard by economy and if no one can afford it and you can do it.  Also I like things my way so I wouldnt mind throwing my own. Be an adult do what you want, even if you dont have a host.

masseyva

Be strong I've been reading lots of boards regarding baby showers and they are funny. Whats the big hang up on making sure people know that you are not hosting your own baby shower?  A shower is a time family, friends and co-workers come to shower you with gifts, stories and blessings in regards to children. Lots of people host their own weddings or at least pay for some of it  right, but you cant host your own shower? Lots of people have been hit hard by economy and if no one can afford it and you can do it.  Also I like things my way so I wouldnt mind throwing my own. Be an adult do what you want, even if you dont have a host.