PPD and DH

cutelilfishstick

I've sought medical treatment and I'm taking pills but DH does not get it and is a complete jackass about it - tell me how you and your DH deal with it together or how you got him to understand.

 

Mabzie

I am sorry.  My dh is totally against pills and therapists too.  I wish I had something to tell you!  GL. 

meshl

I think they either get it or they don't.  Unfortunately, I hear about more that don't than do (I'm in a PPD support group so I hear about this a lot).  Maybe if you tell him that you respect that he doesn't understand it but, out of respect for you, he needs to be more supportive, even if he doesn't get it. 

TommysGirl56

Has he explained the reason behind his point of view?  If not, try asking him why he is against treatment for PPD.  Maybe that can help you gain some understanding of him, and make him more responsive to listening to why treatment is so important.

Also, ask him to accompany you to your doctor's appointment, or to a group conseling session or support group.  If the problem is that he thinks this is something no other families experience, or that it is made up, etc., it may open his eyes to how common PPD actually is and help him realize there is no shame in seeking help for it.  It might also help by simply making him feel included in your care, and show him how important his presence and support are to you.

kyfirewife

DH let off a lot after I actually got diagnosed. He's much more tolerant now.

But... ask your doctor. Our Ob actually has pamphlets on hand for dads to help them understand PPD & what you're going thru. See if your doc has something similar.

madalynnsmommy09

My DH also doesn't get it, he seems to be in denial. I mentioned it many times and he just said oh no your not. I am hoping after my doctors appointment he might be more willing to listen.

texmommy3

My husband IS a therapist, and I don't know if he truly understands how I felt.  He was supportive, but not to the extent that I wanted.  On the other hand, I was probably pretty hard to live with after dd#2 was born.  I am a little anxious now, but trying to hold it off.