Really DH?!

USCgirl

We are planning to take a trip to go out of the state 2 months after the baby is born for a wedding that DH is in. We will probably be gone around 4-5 days. The entire time the plan has been for DH to go for sure, and if me and LO can make it then great- but we will have to see how LO is doing once he is here.

DH just called me saying that his mom will watch LO while we are out of state. Really? I am not going to leave my 2 month old for 4 days. Dh didn't seem to happy with my response. He said that he just thinks I will be able to enjoy the trip more. I am kind of pissed that he even thought that would be ok. Not to mention how the heck is my child going to eat?! I plan on breast feeding and highly doubt I will have pumped enough milk for 4 days. 

Vent over.  

kaay16

I'd never be able to leave my 2 month old for 4 days (especially with my MIL...love the lady but no way)  I would be a little ticked if my husband suggested that too, I can see his point though trying to make it easier for you but men just don't think sometimes

Jordan525

Poor boys. For some reason, they don't seem to understand things like this. He may have even thought he was doing you a favor and giving you a break during that time. I completely understand you and I would feel the same way!

cma1989

That's crazy IMO. I could never see myself leaving my 2 month old with my MIL. He is probably thinking that you would enjoy a mini vacation and had good intentions asking his mother to watch LO and was just surprised you didn't feel the same. I bet when baby comes out he will feel differently about the situation.

hjf2B

I'll join in on your vent, since I'm in a similar situation... only it's me who is in the wedding 2 months after LO is born.  We'll be gone for about 3 days, and several of my friends have asked why I'm bringing the baby.  One of my friends even went so far as to start an argument with me about it! My mother has also asked and said she'd be happy to watch the baby if I want to leave her.  I'm sorry, but no.  I won't feel comfortable leaving her for that long, not to mention the feeding issue.  I can pump, I suppose, but it would be MUCH easier just to bring her with us.  So, I feel your pain!!

bjmyangel

I totally feel for you!  We're going to Mexico when LO is about 4 months old.  My sister tried to convince me that it will be better for us to leave the baby with her while we are gone...for a full week!  Oh, but we're supposed to still take our older 3 kids (10, 10, and 8) because they'll have a blast.  My question was the same as yours- how is the baby going to eat?  Her answer was "Formula!!  DUH!!!"  And this comes from someone who refused to even try to breastfeed either of her kids.  I should have known that would be her response.  All of that said, we will be getting the baby a passport as soon as she is born.  She will be going to Mexico with us!  

gypsywitch

OK I'm kinda on the outside here LOL...if my DH arranged for someone to watch LO while we went on a trip I'd be ecstatic. Yea the logistics would need working out but in the end it would be worth it. I say take him up on the offer. There will come a day when you really really want to get away with DH but have no options to. And 2 mo is kind of a good age to do so, the baby won't be traumitized, and you can def have 4 days worth of feeding built up by then! Trust me on this, you can make that milk! OR resort to FF for 4 days, it won't be the end of the world. Maybe I'm a little more lax about this, this is baby #2 for me and I was spending 2+ weeks away from DD at6wks due to work, so 4 days is nothing to me...but I say take the offer adn go have fun!!!! Its only 4 days.

Erourke

Im kind of in the same boat as you. My husband is in Iraq, and when he gets home (for good) little Lola will be around 6 months old. I also plan on BFing. DH suggested that we take a long weekend just the two of us, and have my Mom watch the baby. I did a LOT of thinking about this. My first reaction was "Oh you dont want to spend time with the baby?" But then I realized, men cant really get attached to the baby until after he/she is born. Also, I came to the conclusion that MAYBE he just wants to spend time alone with me seeing as we will have been apart for an entire year. I think once your little one is born, your husband may have a change of heart and realize that HE himself does not want to be apart from your baby for that long either Good luck!

USCgirl

bjmyangel:

I totally feel for you!  We're going to Mexico when LO is about 4 months old.  My sister tried to convince me that it will be better for us to leave the baby with her while we are gone...for a full week!  Oh, but we're supposed to still take our older 3 kids (10, 10, and 8) because they'll have a blast.  My question was the same as yours- how is the baby going to eat?  Her answer was "Formula!!  DUH!!!"  And this comes from someone who refused to even try to breastfeed either of her kids.  I should have known that would be her response.  All of that said, we will be getting the baby a passport as soon as she is born.  She will be going to Mexico with us!  

I think that my DH was thinking that his mom could just use formula too. Yeah, you can't just switch from breast milk to straight formula- it is usually a gradual process otherwise the baby will probably get diarrhea. I told DH that either LO and I go together, or LO and I don't go. For goodness sakes, I worry about my dog when we are OOT. I can only imagine an infant. 

northhillsbride

Bring your MIL with you - just rent an extra room. I agree that men don't fully understand, but at the same time, it does sound like he wants you to have a nice time too. 

MrsRebecca

LOL, my parents went to Japan on vacation when I was 6 weeks old so I have a warped sense of when it's okay to leave baby.

They left us with my grandparents at least twice a year from very young ages to travel.  I could see myself leaving my two month old. In this situation you might as well just take him with you, but I wouldn't rule out leaving a 2 month old for a few days.

mrsnicolecole

It's ok, i still refuse to go on a vaction without my LO. I will take him anywhere! He's such a good boy too! My DH get's mad sometimes too but I think he understands.