Mean Comment

jennigator3

I was at a baby shower this weekend and I was talking with a couple of people about Nate and how he was born at 33 weeks. One of them noticed I was pregnant and said "didn't your doctor tell you that one will be a preemie too?", I was dumbstruck. She then badgered me about why I got pregnant again. I had no idea what to say, I was so upset the rest of the party and went home crying to my husband. This is my biggest fear, how could she be so insensitive?

I know she doesn't know my situation and I shouldn't take it seriously, but it was embarassing and harsh!

 

 

*KatieH*

Wow you aren't kidding that was really insensitive and unnecessary!   There is no reason to believe that this baby will be a preemie too as every pregnancy is different.  

KellyMichelle

That is so mean.  I'm sorry that she said that to you.  Alot of people with preemies go on to have full term pregnancies.

mommamorris

oh! i am so sorry that that happened... i know it's something that we all fear, and for someone to throw it back in your face is beyond insensitive.

if you know this person, i would talk to them about how it makes you feel. if it's someone you just saw in passing, i would let it roll off you as an ignorant conversation by an insensitive person. 

LWilli35

Yikes...I'm so sorry you had to go though this.  People can be so ignorant and crass!

TriciaJoy

WOW.

That seriously makes my blood boil. Sometimes I really wish we could go back and time and react differently. I have no doubt that in the moment, I would have been struck dumb at her audacity. But then I'd really want to rip her a new one. What a judgy, insensitive biitch.

beachykeen1723

Wow. That is terrible! If it is someone you don't know, I would call the host and request not to be invited to anything where you would have to see that person again. If it is someone you know, I would call and explain how hurtful their comment was.

Ugh, I could hit that lady.

Jennyjenz

that is terrible and I am sorry she said that to you.  i like to believe in karma b/c it makes me feel better when I encounter idiots.

 

jennigator3

Thanks, what she said really hurt and I do wish I could go back in time and tell her off, but I just couldn't at the time without getting all emotional and ruining the party. The hostess and guest of honor had no idea this was happening and the lady is not someone I associate with, I don't even know her name. Just the fact that a total stranger looked at me like I was crazy for doing this hit hard, I wish I could wipe it from my mind.

lstaylor73

HOly hell, was this a friend you know, or just someone you met at the party?  If it's a friend or an acquaintance I would totally tell them to STFU and stay away from you.  That was truly and awful thing to say.

mek10976

You must have been talking to my SIL!!!  I'm sorry she said those things.  I know it is hard to let those things roll off your back.  HUGS!