co worker envy

MikesGirl22

so two of the 10 ladies i work with (im a stylist in a hair salon) have revealed their pregnancies in the last 3 days. is it wrong that im jealous? im 2 months newlywed and only 1 month TTC behind me so i know it could be a long way to go but i cant help feeling completely jealous and a little "why not me?" ive posted questions on other threads & got no help (to say the least) so im hesitant to even ask. has anyone ever felt this way?

Finallyhismrs07

Yes, I think we all feel this way at one point or another throughout this journey. Just remember to be patient...you are just getting started. Just remember that you can enjoy the journey. You can be happy for them while being a little bit jealous at the same time. Good luck to you!

j&lo82907

Of course! I get jealous (we all do) all the time.  It is hard not to feel that way, but you have to try to be happy for others and be patient.  1 month is not that long, and you have no idea how long either of those girls might have been trying.  Either way, you aren't alone on your feelings! Good luck!

kharminhassan

It's a sign you shouldn't be TTC.....

TarponMonoxide

I replied to your other thread.

 2 months into a marriage is TOO EARLY to TTC...and considering you've got a bit of a stumbling block regarding sex and intimacy, it's no time to TTC.

 I strongly suggest you wait -- wait on the TTC and the house -- until your  marriage has legs. Y0u are asking for everything YESTERDAY.

Slow down and let nature take its course between you and your H. GL.

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I don't think for me it's jealousy more of aww cute I want one! 

MiniSun09

kharmin:

It's a sign you shouldn't be TTC.....

I disagree with kharmin. If you are already TTC and other's get pregnant before you, it's natural to feel jealous that it's happening for them and not you. As far as the time frame goes- TTC whenever you and your husband are ready, regardless of how long you've been married. My husband and I were together for 6 years before getting married so there really wasn't any reason for us to wait several years before trying. To each her own!

TarponMonoxide

MiniSun09:

kharmin:

It's a sign you shouldn't be TTC.....

I disagree with kharmin. If you are already TTC and other's get pregnant before you, it's natural to feel jealous that it's happening for them and not you. As far as the time frame goes- TTC whenever you and your husband are ready, regardless of how long you've been married. My husband and I were together for 6 years before getting married so there really wasn't any reason for us to wait several years before trying. To each her own!

That chick is a pain in the arse.

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TarponMonoxide:

I replied to your other thread.

 2 months into a marriage is TOO EARLY to TTC...and considering you've got a bit of a stumbling block regarding sex and intimacy, it's no time to TTC.

 I strongly suggest you wait -- wait on the TTC and the house -- until your  marriage has legs. Y0u are asking for everything YESTERDAY.

Slow down and let nature take its course between you and your H. GL.

I don't agree only her and her H know when it's a right time to TTC in their marriage! 

Edit: Just read your other post! Give it time it will happen in time GL!  

Crispity

Six of my coworkers are currently pregnant, plus almost every one of my friends is pregnant or has recently had a baby.  I'm now in my 9th month TTC, and the constant reminders of what I don't have definitely make me a little bit upset and jealous, especially when I get comments and questions about when we're going to have a baby (I wish I knew!).

I think it's pretty normal to be jealous of someone who has something that you desperately want for yourself.

j&lo82907

MiniSun09:

kharmin:

It's a sign you shouldn't be TTC.....

I disagree with kharmin. If you are already TTC and other's get pregnant before you, it's natural to feel jealous that it's happening for them and not you. As far as the time frame goes- TTC whenever you and your husband are ready, regardless of how long you've been married. My husband and I were together for 6 years before getting married so there really wasn't any reason for us to wait several years before trying. To each her own!

I totally agree with this.. who is anybody to be telling her when her and her DH should start TTC?? If they feel they are ready than that is between them, this board is for us to support eachother in our struggles trying to conceive, not turn others away.  DH and I started right after we got married (as in on the honeymoon) but we were together for many years before hand. So unless you know a lot more than what is posted here, I don't see your reasoning behind that.

If you are saying that people who are married only 2 months should not TTC than you have a bone to pick with a lot of ladies on this board who have been trying since way before that.

Finallyhismrs07

OP: You have the right to TTC whenever you and your DH are ready. It is NOBODY'S business other than the two of you!

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j&lo82907:

MiniSun09:

kharmin:

It's a sign you shouldn't be TTC.....

I disagree with kharmin. If you are already TTC and other's get pregnant before you, it's natural to feel jealous that it's happening for them and not you. As far as the time frame goes- TTC whenever you and your husband are ready, regardless of how long you've been married. My husband and I were together for 6 years before getting married so there really wasn't any reason for us to wait several years before trying. To each her own!

I totally agree with this.. who is anybody to be telling her when her and her DH should start TTC?? If they feel they are ready than that is between them, this board is for us to support eachother in our struggles trying to conceive, not turn others away.  DH and I started right after we got married (as in on the honeymoon) but we were together for many years before hand. So unless you know a lot more than what is posted here, I don't see your reasoning behind that.

If you are saying that people who are married only 2 months should not TTC than you have a bone to pick with a lot of ladies on this board who have been trying since way before that.

Agreed, I really agree that it's nones business when any couple begins TTC!  

jesswheels

Finallyhismrs07:

OP: You have the right to TTC whenever you and your DH are ready. It is NOBODY'S business other than the two of you!

 

this. And I think jealousy is totally normal.  

maleigh101

TarponMonoxide:

I replied to your other thread.

 2 months into a marriage is TOO EARLY to TTC...and considering you've got a bit of a stumbling block regarding sex and intimacy, it's no time to TTC.

 I strongly suggest you wait -- wait on the TTC and the house -- until your  marriage has legs. Y0u are asking for everything YESTERDAY.

Slow down and let nature take its course between you and your H. GL.

 

Where do you get off telling her she shouldn't TTC just because she hasn't been married that long? I have only been married a little over 3 months and I am on my 2nd cycle of TTC. My Dh and I own our own home, he has a good job and I am currently not working to focus on school. We have been planning on TTC soon after we were married and I think it is up to the couple to decide. Just because you were not ready to TTC when you were only married a few months does not mean other people are in the same situation.

TarponMonoxide

maleigh101:

TarponMonoxide:

I replied to your other thread.

 2 months into a marriage is TOO EARLY to TTC...and considering you've got a bit of a stumbling block regarding sex and intimacy, it's no time to TTC.

 I strongly suggest you wait -- wait on the TTC and the house -- until your  marriage has legs. Y0u are asking for everything YESTERDAY.

Slow down and let nature take its course between you and your H. GL.

 

Where do you get off telling her she shouldn't TTC just because she hasn't been married that long? I have only been married a little over 3 months and I am on my 2nd cycle of TTC. My Dh and I own our own home, he has a good job and I am currently not working to focus on school. We have been planning on TTC soon after we were married and I think it is up to the couple to decide. Just because you were not ready to TTC when you were only married a few months does not mean other people are in the same situation.

Oh, FFS...here we go again -- another know it all handing out advice!

The OP just stated she can't even afford a new bed. Cookie, that speaks worlds about her situation -- you're going to buy a home and bring a kid into the marriage and you don't even have money for a new bed??? Think about it.

You're probably another wet behind the ears young twenties beebee. That sure figures.

MikesGirl22

just replied to my other post about not affording a new bed, so here goes on this one. we can afford a new bed, i just say that we cant afford it as a saving $ strategy. like, want to go to dinner? no thanks, we cant afford it. should we get a new bed? not right now, we cant afford it. we do actually have the $ but are waititng to see how much our house will cost, closing costs etc. want to have as much cash for down payment and keep our credit cards clear til we r approved for a mortgage. so the can't afford it part is for right now, like 3-4 months. we r not destitute. and as far as waiting to TTC, we r going to cool it for a few months til we move for sanity's sake, but we are also not NOT trying, either. i agree that it is a personal choice when to TTC, and just because we r only married 2 months shouldnt have anything to do with it.