Dh request...WDYT?

close2it

Hi ladies! It's my first post here, hope you don't mind the drive by as they call it on other boards.

I'm getting ready to send a list to my 2 bf's for my upcoming shower.  My DH came home from work last night and said, there are 2 people from my work I'd kinda like you invite to the shower.

My thought is this would be strange!  It's not that I don't like them or don't want them there, but I've maybe met them 1x before.  DH won't be at the shower until the end and I just think they'd be uneasy about going to a shower where they know no one, including me very well.  Plus, I'm worried about hurt feelings with the rest of the ladies at his (very small) company that won't be invited.

He just wants to invite them because they are really excited for us and always ask about how I'm doing, want to see pics, etc.  He thought it would be nice to include them.  I think it will look like I'm just fishing for gifts.

So, after all that, would you invite them or not?  I figure if they're that excited maybe they'd just do something small for him/us at his work.

TIA!

 

robinsokj

I would opt for a baby announcement after they are born.  That sounds like an uncomfortable situation all around.

EastCoastBride

robinsokj:

I would opt for a baby announcement after they are born.  That sounds like an uncomfortable situation all around.

Ditto.  Your DH needs to realize that people being excited about your baby doesn't mean you invite them to your shower.  showers really should be for people YOU know and are relatively close to. If these were family members of his, that's one thing.  But coworkers?  No, I would not invite them.

Plenty of people were excited about my wedding - I didnt' invite all of them to my wedding.  Same w/ my baby.  Plenty of people were excited.  I didnt' invite them to my shower.

 

RoxyLynn

I agree - a birth announcement is the way to go.

You could, if you wish, mention to your DH that his office friends wouldn't know anyone at the shower and you wouldn't want to make them uncomfortable being with a small group that has all known each other a long time.

kymberlie1

Well,?

I work in a very small workplace and have a male co-worker there that I am pretty close with. When he was expecting his second baby I went to his wife's baby shower with my female co-worker even though we had only met his wife a one or two times. We still had a blast.. people were really friendly and inviting. I think it's more of a personal choice, plus it's pretty easy to politely decline a request to a baby shower if they were feeling uncomfortable about it. I think we both felt like we really wanted to get something for "his" baby and it was a nice chance to get to know his wife a little better.?

When I have my baby shower I'll probably invite men and women and include my husband in it (just because I have way more male friends than female friends, I did the same thing with my wedding shower and just had a huge get together)... mixed gender baby showers have always been my favourite to attend! Then you avoid awkward situations like this and all friends are welcome without leaving anyone out.?

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hopefulmom

Ya..I'd just send a baby announcement after the baby is born...like the other pp said.  I'm sure they are excited but probably the other ladies are as well...just not as vocal.  You don't want hurt feelings.  If they question your DH about not being invited (can't see that happening but you never know) he can just say that you felt uncomfortable since you didn't know them very well and thought they would feel uncomfortable since your DH wasn't there the whole time.

jdouglas84

I think it would be uncomfortable for you and for them, considering you don't know each other that well.

VTPurity

I think it would be okay to invite them if they have expressed interest in being invited.  I agree with a pp who said they were invited to a male co-worker's wife's shower and they went because they cared about him and wanted to get to know his wife better.  Maybe this is the same situation.  I am definitely not an advocate of inviting people just to get gifts but I think if they have a desire to come you should invite them.  

sweetkakes419

For me, it would depend on how close DH was with them at work.  If they're pretty close, then I would just probably give in and invite them.  Since they ask how things are going often and are so excited, they'd probably be more happy to be included than anything else.  Who knows?  They may not show up at all and just send a gift, but it sounds like they may have given gifts anyway.  DHs get so few things to do / be involved with / etc. during a pregnancy so I try to let DH have something from time to time.

mejumpmore1

I would invite them per DHs request. It wont seem like you are just fishing for gifts imo.

melody921

robinsokj:

I would opt for a baby announcement after they are born.  That sounds like an uncomfortable situation all around.

This. If they don't even know you well, let alone anyone else at the shower, it could be weird.

seniah_05

I've been to showers where I only knew the parents-to-be - it was awkward initially and then I had a blast!