How many elected to be discharged early with #2

katykat17

Just wondering if this is a viable option. My mom will be flying in from FL to take care of DD while I am in hospital but I am worried about DD having a hard time since she does not know my mom that well and vice versa Grandma does not know every like/dislike routine etc. DD has never had a babysitter except for Grandma when we had to sign house papers for like 1 hour. I am just worried about her.

Any of you ladies elect to come home 24 hours after delivery? How did it go?

kfriscia

I did.  I actually went home after 24 hours after my first too.  I had and EASY second delivery and felt as good as you could feel so soon after having a baby.  And my ds #2 was doing great.  My OB had no problems discharging us as long as the pedi was okay with it too.  He just made us wait for the results of the bilirubin to come back before he would officially let us go and once that came back okay we were cleared.

jnksmom

We went home exactly 24 hours after DD was born.(she was born at6:01pm on Fri and we were released at 6:05pm on Sat) My mom was at our house with DS who he loves and kept him the 1st year of his life(until we moved and I started to SAH) but I still worried about him so as soon as they said we could go home we went. I felt really good the first few days so I think I overdid myself(because I felt like I could) so the 4th/5th day were the worst for me. I was a little sore at first but was really hurting by then. So my advice is even if you feel like you can do something accept help at first so you don't hurt worse later.

howleyshell

I'm the opposite.

I stayed as long as possible.

I knew my toddler was in good hands and he came to visit me daily.  My Mom flew in a few days before my scheduled section and was staying with us so she knew his routine and he was comfortable with her there.

I also knew that I had a ton of much appreciated help in the nurses at the hospital.

Once I got home I was juggling 2 kids from there on out.  I choose to take an extra day to focus more attention on getting to know my newborn and do some bonding as I knew my attention would be split the second I walked in the door at home. 

EllaJax

I was in the exact same situation regarding babysitting and DD.  We came home early and it's a good thing we did.  DD was very upset because she didn't understand where I had gone.  If your situation is like ours then I highly recommend it.  Goodluck with whatever decision you make!

JARbaby

I did and it was a HUGE mistake. I had a c-section both times and they discharged me after just 36 hours if I wanted to...I did want to because I was feeling well. I should have stayed and rested the full time. It was game on when I got home with DD#1 and it was terrible.

MrsCorbin

I had c/s's with all 3 and left after 2 nights with #2 and #3.  I hate hospitals and feel much more comfortable at home.  I am a light sleeper and hate being constantly woken up at the hospital.  The bed was pretty uncomfortable and DH didn't stay the night with #3.  I wanted to go home as soon as possible.

Mrs.Reem

I did. I wanted to be home for Thanksgiving and I felt fine. The only thing is that if you're group B positive they like the baby to stay for 48 hours. I didn't have any problems coming home early and was much more relaxed at home where the nurses weren't bugging me every 5 minutes.  

MrsGeek

I stayed as long as possible.  They have a nursery that you can use at night!!  Who wouldn't take advantage of this?

springbride0515

I came home only 6 hours after having DS #1.  He had to be transported to a nearby hospital NICU and I refused to not leave with him.  I had a completely natural long labor (4 days in total) and felt fine at the time... but looking back should have stayed longer to recoup.  I will at least stay one night this time around, but hope to come home after that.  GL!

Brit1017

I did. It was actually great- I had a much easier delivery this time with minimal tearing/ stitches, so I felt fine. I didn't want to spend another night away from DS, plus I got no sleep in the hospital. I just made sure I asked my MW and the pedi first thing in the morning the day after I gave birth.

lvisser

No freaking way.  I had a C/S and stayed until the last possible minute.  Looking back, I should have asked for another day!  lol   I enjoyed my 3 day vacay getting to know Kai...

Mrs.V

I went home 24 hrs after my first because I couldn't wait to get out of the hospital and I plan to definately do the same thing again!

PhilsWife07

If I end up having another c-section, I plan to stay as long as possible. I just remember it being so hard with DS once I came home. I half-seriously joke that the quality of my care really diminished once I was discharged. I enjoyed my stay at the hospital and next time I plan to send the baby to the nursery at night to allow myself that much more time to rest and relax before the reality of 2u2 at home hits hard.

lynnbeez

I left in 24 hrs too.  I felt so much better than the 1st delivery.  I started asking to leave at 24 hrs right after I gave birth.  I was sure to let everyone and all the nurses know my wishes to leave early.  DD was not allowed at the hospital due to the H1N1 restrictions.  It was hard on her, she woke up at 3 am screaming for me and then seached the house for me.  Heartbreaking, thank goodness I made DH go home and spent the night there to be with her.  When I got home it was easy as cake.  I felt great and was able to do anything.  I got more rest at home than in the hospital, the beds are horrible and everyone coming to do temps and blood pressure.  Home was so much better!

If you are comfortable with it, have DH go home and spend the night with DC.  That helped our DD, she still had her bedtime and morning routine in place.  He even went home for naptime.  It worked really well for us.

ETA:  I would send DH home to be with the toddler at night.  In order for Grandma to still feel involved, have her come spend the night with you at the hospital.  She'll love it.  That's what we did, my mom spent the night at the hospital.

 

HarrietNJMommy

That is a BIG FAT NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was allowed to leave early ALL 3 times (I had 3 c-sections) and chose to stay because I knew that I would be doing all sorts of things that I shouldn't. DH stayed home with the other child(ren). It worked out fine.

GL to you!

katykat17

Thanks ladies! I want that special time to get to know DC#2 but DD is so used to being with me every day I just worry it will really upset her if I disappear for 2-4 days. As long as I have an easy vaginal delivery and feel good I think I will try to get home earlier.

 I am planning on sending DH home at night so she has a normal night/morning routine. I thought about having my mom come to stay with me in the hospital at night but to be honest she snores like some kind of wild bear and me or new baby wouldn't be getting much sleep lol! 

 As far as I know my hospital allows children to still visit so I am hoping it will be the same in June when we go in! 

ridesbuttons

I had my second in the wee hours of Monday morning.  When the docs came in around 8:30am for rounds, I chatted them up and was ready to leave.  My doctor said, "um, you'll be spending the night".  I was so ready to go home only 5 hours after having LO #2.

So, I gave birth Monday and happily came home Tuesday.  DS#1 really only missed me Monday night and Tuesday morning before daycare.

It was totally fine and I was very happy to be home.

Much, much easier the second time around.

jillybean222

NO!  I stayed as long as they would let me.  DH was home with #1 and I knew she was in good hands. 

marriedchick06

I chose to leave a day early (actually with both of my girls). The nurses really tried to get me to stay both times, but I had a great recoveries (c/s) and I had missed DD #1 to badly to stay another night.

MattsWifey<3

You'd probably be surprised how 'well' your DD would do while you were away.

I had a C/S and was discharged within 24 hours because my son was being moved to another state to go to a NICU! My kids were with my SIL (at our home) for a whole week while DH and I went back and forth to the other hospital.

Once you're home, you won't get to eat, rest, shower, clean, etc. like you used to with one kid. I would highly reccommend you rest for as long as you can in the hospital.

I joked with DH before we left to have DS, that I might pay them to keep me longer because I was looking forward to sleeping and having my meals brought to me! Things didn't go as planned. lol.

BestThingsCome

Mrs.Reem:

I did. I wanted to be home for Thanksgiving and I felt fine. The only thing is that if you're group B positive they like the baby to stay for 48 hours. I didn't have any problems coming home early and was much more relaxed at home where the nurses weren't bugging me every 5 minutes.  

This exactly! Our only problem was that we came home (unknowingly) to a DS with Croup... but it all worked out. GL!

Asquared

I think 24 hours is standard at my hospital because it was fairly close to that with dd.  Will your mom be there for a couple days before? can dh slip out and help put her down to nap or bed?  these new regulations for visitors are definitely making things tricky, but just remember she'll be fine.