Would you bring DC?

roseroseroseroserose

My step- grandpa's funeral is Thursday. My step- gma asked if I was bringing K. I said no and she told me I could, that there would be somewhere to take her if she needed to leave. I just don't think she needs to be there. What have you done?

alicia11780

I haven't been in this specific situation but I would still bring LO's.  My thinking is that you won't be there for too long and if she told you it was OK then you know she wouldn't be offended if you do.

108Bride

I personally would not bring DD to just any funeral, but if your stepGM is asking that you bring your daughter and you would be comfortable doing so...I brought DD to DH's GM's wake b/c MIL asked that I do.  My mom came too and brought DD home after about an hour.  DD did fine and MIL was very happy to have her there.  I guess that it is more normal to some people (like MIL) than I would have thought... Maybe your step GM feels the same way.

MomToMaia*

I would take DD.

brightning

Nope. I just don't think funerals are a place for young children.

amazingkel

I am sorry for your loss!!  My Grandfather died the beginning of December.  I did not bring DS.  I just knew there would be a lot of running around in the days before with all the arrangements that needed to  be made (and i was a direct person in all of this bc my own father is deceased, so i made a lot of decisions with my grandmother and my aunt and uncle).  I also knew that I would need to be in attendance for the whole wake and funeral as there were a ton of out of towners and people i havent seen in a really long time. I knew that I would already have my hands full, so I did not bring him.  I just felt awkward.  Also, my DH's grandmother is ill, and in the event she does pass away, DS will probably fly up north with us, but I will ask my mom to babysit while we are at the funeral etc.

I also remember that when my father passed away, my cousin was only 4.  She did not come to the wakes (there were 3 of them).  it was an open casket, and my aunt felt it wasinappropriate for her to be there for that (which i agree). She did come to the funeral, which ithought was ok and would probably bring DS if it was not someone I was immediately related to.

abpdjs

brightning:

Nope. I just don't think funerals are a place for young children.

ditto.  dh's grandmas passed last November and we did not take Carson to the funeral but we did pick him up and take him back to his parents (the wake)  he was a breath of fresh air after the funeral and it was immediate family.