do you feel like this?

He makes me crazy...

sometimes I feel like I have faded into the abyss and all anyone cares about is my baby.  I'm not an AW, but my DH has never been very affectionate (I am the opposite) and now that he's more preoccupied with the baby, I find myself longing for hugs and affirmations.  My mom is the same way, except she used to be very affectionate with me and now she just forgets to hug me even when she greets me.  It's weird.

Sorry my posts are a bit Debbie Downer today.  I'm having a hard time.  I posted this on PPD, but it's suuuuuper slow there so I was just curious if anyone else is dealing with this.

ashy22lou

I just wanted to give you a big e-hug. I'm super affectionate, and I would feel down, too, if it seemed like my loved ones weren't being that way back.

He makes me crazy...

ashy22lou:

I just wanted to give you a big e-hug. I'm super affectionate, and I would feel down, too, if it seemed like my loved ones weren't being that way back.

Thank you.

prettipenny

Big e-hug from me too.

I know what you mean, whenever I go somewhere without the baby everyone is so dissapointed, like there was no point of me coming over if I don't have DD with me.  My sister has even shown up at my parents house when I am there and when she found out DD was at home with DH she screamed "Well then what the eff did I come over for??"

It kinda hurts your feelings sometimes. but I think just remind yourself that your LO is new and everyone is still super excited about them- it's not they love pr care about you any less.

mandolynn81

This attributed to me ppd early on. No one cared about me once i had her. No asking how i was or how i felt. I just told dh how i felt, and now he is being super great and making up for everyone else.

Shlei

Yes! But it's ok with me because I have never been very affectionate with anyone but FI (and now DD as well). My parents often forget to say hi to me. Eh, it's ok. I'm just glad she gets lots of love and attention.

jenna0627

I think that your feelings are pretty normal in some sense. I know that when we go places, DS is always the first person that gets attention and maybe 30 minutes later DH and I might get a, "Oh and how are you" For me though, I don't mind it as I am not a super affectionate person to begin with. As for the relationship with DH, I couldn't have imagined the toll it would take after having a baby. Don't get me wrong he is fantastic with DS, and a great dad and husband but sometimes I feel like we are just roomates going through the motions. We have found that we need to make sure we make time for each other. We try to have date nights, or make sure we stay up a little later to watch a favorite show etc.Have you talked to your DH about it, or your family for that matter? If you think it is something that might need addressed further it never hurts to talk to your doctor.

howa0155

Your DH and you sound like me and my DH.  I am a happy hugger and he doesn't want any part of it.  I think the only way to get over it is to figure out what he thinks is affection and also try to get him to once in a while be affectionate in your way.  Five love languages (a book) is awesome for this. 

As for fading into the abyss.  Yes.  Everything comes before me and people think of DD and DS before me.  Not having a job doesn't help this disappering feeling.  So, I started a blog, I began painting my own toes (no pedicure $) and I started making sure I do me things.  All of these items revolve around me and help me express who I am - so I am beginning to feel much better.

I really sorry you are having a tough time and I hope anything I said about my experience helps!!  ((e-hugs))

afg

Big hugs to you.

I don't necessarily feel like I'm disapearing but I do feel disapointed with my life, and feel very down today about it.

We moved to NC 2 years ago and we had such high hopes for the move being a new start for us but it has been more of the same - disapointing jobs, money struggles, I can't stay home with DD which is so important to me and I'm stuck in a boring dead end job.  Sorry to high jack your post but feel free to pm me anytime you need to vent.