Will you have help after LO arrives?

MrsEmm

Do you have family close that will help? Will anyone come stay with you? Is DH/SO taking time off? Are you hiring a Night Nanny or nurse or something fancy like that??

butterbeansmama

My dh is home most of the week. He works on the weekends mainly. Not sure if he is going to be that much help though...lol. My mom is taking a week off of work and will be staying with us for that week (cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. - just about anything we will need her for). After that week, she will probably come to help me when dh is out of town for work (which is quite often). At least until we are on some type of schedule.

The scheduling with the new baby and ds is what I'm most worried/stressed about. I'm definitely a scheduler. :-)

BelhurstBride

DH is going to take some time off from work. Both of our families are local, so I'm sure they'll be here as well.

We're not hiring anyone. 

Mom_E224

No one is coming to stay with me. I think I may have volunteers to take DS off my hands for a few days here and there, but other than that it'll just be me! S/O won't be taking time off work either.

KateNonymous

I haven't really discussed it with Mr. Nonymous in any detail, but I want to have a cleaning service come in before the birth for a big clean, and then come in every week or every other week for at least the first month.

 

The trick will be keeping my MIL from cleaning! She's great at it, but I hate that she does that at her age (she's in great shape, but I do not feel good about having a 75-year-old scrubbing my floor!) even though it's a contribution she's happy to make. Also, I want to have a "green" service so that the products they use are less toxic, like the ones I use regularly.

 

Fortunately, my in-laws should be able to help with the baby early on, and my dad and stepmom have already told me that the minute we want them, they're in the car to come see the new baby.

Mrs. Reckling

More than likely it will just be H and myself.  My mom might help in the evenings after all her daycare kids leave. 

Depending on how I feel I may of H drop me off at my moms before he goes to work and pick me up after.  My mom has a home daycare so I would have someone to help.

hydies33

DH will be home for  few days before going back to work. My grandmother is staying for as long as I want her to. I am SO happy she's coming. She loves to cook, clean & do laundry when people are sick or have just had a baby. That's her way of helping, and I'm glad to have the help!

sherina825

I (thank God) will have a lot of help.  My mom and two of my sisters live within 5 miles of me and another sister and MIL live about 8 miles away.  DH also owns his own business and he has a lot of leway with his schedule and can do a lot of his work from home.  So, no need for a night nanny or nurse because family is so close. 

aerobaby

I will have my husband the week of the baby being born..and then my mother in law will take a week off..then i'm thinking maybe getting my little sister up to here help me...if i need it haha... but i will have plenty of help

southernblond3

DH will take a week off, and my mother, his mother, and my aunt are all retired, and are going to switch up staying with us I am sure...I already told my mom she had to come stay with me, I am her only child, so she would like nothing better... his mom is a fruitcake, literally, she is VERY bipolar, so I dont know if I want her to keep LO by herself...

marinewifebarker

My hubby will be deploying RIGHT after LO is born. And I live out in Cali without family and dont know anybody really either.  So I'll be by myself for the first couple months--then plan to move home to Michigan! I wish I could afford a night nanny or nurse LOL  I'm afraid I'll be goin it alone!

robinsokj

DH will take some time off and I think my mom plans on coming for a while.  Lord knows I'll need all the help I can get.

Mrs Merlot

I think DH will take a week or 2 off, but he works alot of split and night shifts so he'll be home plenty anyways.  And he might even help out

Other than that, I'll be home with DD and the new babe and DD will probably help in her own special way.  But I'm looking forward to the time home with my 2 girls.

niki731

DH will be home with me for about 1 1/2 to 2 weeks then my mom is insisting on staying. 

dstar

DH has been out on disability the last 4 months and does not feel that comfortable with asking for time off.  We are hoping she is born later in the week (HaHa) and he will take the rest of the week off and then have the weekend.  Most of our family lives locally, so I am sure people will come over to help and my sis is moving in next door to us.   I am a little worried MIL will try to move in.  I don't mind her coming over during the day, I just don't want her there 24/7.  The person I would want there the most, besides DH, would be my mom but we own a business together and she will probably be running it, while I am out for a few weeks. 

kufishy

With my first my mother came, and frankly she was just in the way.  I think she did it because that was what her mother did for her.  But, we aren't that close and it just ended up being more stressful for me.

The second time around my hubs took a couple of days off and my in-laws live about two miles away which was really nice.

This time, I think the hubs is taking more time off than last, and we still have the in-laws.  We also have a great network of friends who have already offered to make food, take the girls for playdates and to school, etc which will be totally AWESOME.

dstar

marinewifebarker:

My hubby will be deploying RIGHT after LO is born. And I live out in Cali without family and dont know anybody really either.  So I'll be by myself for the first couple months--then plan to move home to Michigan! I wish I could afford a night nanny or nurse LOL  I'm afraid I'll be goin it alone!

I live in East County San Diego.  If you ever need anything or feel lonely PM me. 

mysticporter

My mother is retiring this year, so she's going to come to stay with us for an extended visit a few weeks before I'm due so that we'll have someone at the house to watch DD without DH having to run back and forth/get babysitters.  She'll probably stay a week or two after new baby comes to help out, then go home for a few weeks (other grandparents may visit then, who knows), then come back for another visit when I go back to work.  (DH is a SAHD, but he was thinking having her here for the first bit when he has two alone would be nice).

Nobody came with DD until she was a few weeks old.  At that point DH was working full time, so we had the first people come to visit/help when he had to go back to work.

MrsEmm

We have family close so Im thinking I'll have random help here & there. Plus DH will likely take a little bit of time off.

court1703

No help.  Just me and my DH.  (when hes not working)

lmpdjc

Dh will be taking some time off, at least a couple of weeks.  I also have a 13 year old daughter, and I'm sure she'll be tons of help.  (or at least around so I can shower!)  My Mom wanted to come and stay, but she only lives 15 minutes away and kind of drives me crazy, so I vetoed that idea.  MIL is 5 minutes away and my sister is just across town, so I'm sure I'll have any help that I need. 

sejabernathy

I didn't really want help with DS but when MIL came over, boy was I thankful for the nap opportunity! 

I have decided I DO want help with the Peanuts! My DH of course will hopefully have a few days off of work and I believe my mom will be here for the first week or so (maybe more if she can arrange it with work). I have informed my sister that she will be coming to stay for a week lol but she was super psyched when I asked her. She needs a bit of a break from her 2 boys (she has been at home with them for 4+years with no vacay) and my best friend (DS's Godmother) is psyched to stay for a week! Also, my MIL lives in town and currently doesn't have a job so she will be here when I need her.

Ha I have purposely redone our guest bedroom b/c I know that we will have people coming to stay!

Lets just pray that our babies are healthy and ready to come home from the hospital with us...DS's stay was 6 1/2 weeks after birth.

OK thats it! have a GREAT day!!! 

mrsfrank

My mom stayed with us for about 2 weeks off and on when DS was born. This time it will be much of the same since DS won't even be 2 yet and  I won't be able to lift him for several weeks. DH is taking  2 weeks off I think.

joelen&louis

My parents will be visiting for a month sometime after LO is born. I'll be taking maternity leave for 4 months but after my maternity leave is over, my parents and/or inlaws will be helping me 2 days out of the week to care for LO while I work from home ... and DH will be home the other 2 days out of the week to care for LO while I work from home. It works out perfectly so that we won't incur any daycare expenses and I'll still be physically near by our LO so I won't miss out on any milestones even while I'm working.

Paradisemoon

DH took a week off when DD was born and that was plenty of help. I cooked a weeks worth of meals ahead of time and froze them. This time DH is taking 2 weeks off. Although MIL has offered to stay with us for awhile I'm not ok with that. These early weeks are special and anybody extra will just be too stressful. And after I said no to her staying here she offered to take DD for two weeks, and well thats totally out of the question. The last thing I need is for DD to feel like we don't want her  because of the new baby. To be honest I smell trouble brewing...

rareskirt

My fiance has saved up vacation days, and as told his boss around the time he will be needing off...so at least the first few days he will be able to help. And his mother said she would come and help out anytime, or come over after work to let me nap and she is more of a mother to me than my own so that should be a lot of fun and really helpful.

FemmeNat01

I have a ton of family around me that are going to help me. I know I will need it and I am not passing up any help at all.

My mom will take 2 weeks off work and come every day so I can shower/clean/have some ME time. My DF is taking 1 month off.

My cousins and aunts have already all volunteered to babysit whenever needed. I am taking them up on that. My best friends have offered to babysit too. (I know they will follow through. They are the best!)

My biological mom is coming in June for 1 month to help with the twins.

Then, in September, our nanny will start once I go back to school and watch the twins during the day.

I dont even begin to presume that I will be able to do this by myself. I know I will require a lot of help so I am not going to be stubborn (for once in my life) and I am accepting all offers.

kirkette

Hells yes!  I will have someone helping me ( mom, aunts, mil, sisters, etc ) for at least 3 months. It's a tradition in our culture. This way the new mother (me) does not feel over whelmed, and has time to sleep, recover. exercise,  and adjust.

We also live near to family, so there are people to help as our LO grows.