I don't like one of the practice Dr's

ceyda79

I love my Dr, she is part of a practice of 8 of which one is a male. I'm doing my rounds right now to meet each one and today i met with the male Dr. I'm sorry but he just didn't get me, he was awful and now i'm terrified that he may deliver my baby. I asked him if i could ask him some questions and he said "i guess" and then all of his answers were "sure" and "probably" I don't want him to deliver my baby and am freaking out. I just feel like a woman would be more nurturing and understanding during the whole birth process. Don't get me wrong, i went to a male gyno for years and he was one of my favorites but when it comes to birth i just don't feel the same. What to do? I will not leave because i absolutely LOVE my Dr! Stressed out help!

jessie55

I felt the same way about the practice I was with for my first preg- I loved them all but this one guy who was horrible. What do you know, he was the dr. on call and delivered me, and honestly it was fine, but I did switch practices for this pregnancy. The labor and delivery nurse did all the work and support anyway!

rlscheck

There are many male doctors who are very understanding and many women doctors who are not.  Don't judge a doctor just based on their sex.  But when it comes down to it, if you don't want to change practices than you're stuck.  Also, just because he isn't nuturing, doesn't mean that he won't do a good job when you are delivering or the health or you or your baby are in danger.  And that's really what you need.

carasizemore

I feel the same way about one of the dr's in the place that I go to. She did my first D&C and basically didn't do it correctly. I had to go back and have another one about two weeks later because she didn't do it right the first time. It was horrible emotionally to have to go through all of that again. And on top of it she was very cold/unfeeling, etc. I realllllly hope she's not there when I deliver!

ceyda79

rlscheck:

There are many male doctors who are very understanding and many women doctors who are not.  Don't judge a doctor just based on their sex.  But when it comes down to it, if you don't want to change practices than you're stuck.  Also, just because he isn't nuturing, doesn't mean that he won't do a good job when you are delivering or the health or you or your baby are in danger.  And that's really what you need.

I see where you are coming from but this is my first child and i don't want some cold person making it miserable for us. He was just cold...the rest of the Dr's are wonderful.

ceyda79

carasizemore:

I feel the same way about one of the dr's in the place that I go to. She did my first D&C and basically didn't do it correctly. I had to go back and have another one about two weeks later because she didn't do it right the first time. It was horrible emotionally to have to go through all of that again. And on top of it she was very cold/unfeeling, etc. I realllllly hope she's not there when I deliver!

I'm wondering if i should bring it up with my Dr...should i just drop it and pray that he isn't on call? I'm sorry i hope that the bad Dr isn't on call for you either.

JnJ04

If he's one of 8, there is only about a 12.5% chance that he will deliver your baby. If your labor goes fast, you may not get any of the doctors in your practice because you will need the resident on-call doctor at the hospital. I wouldn't let it stress you out.

rlscheck

ceyda79:

carasizemore:

I feel the same way about one of the dr's in the place that I go to. She did my first D&C and basically didn't do it correctly. I had to go back and have another one about two weeks later because she didn't do it right the first time. It was horrible emotionally to have to go through all of that again. And on top of it she was very cold/unfeeling, etc. I realllllly hope she's not there when I deliver!

I'm wondering if i should bring it up with my Dr...should i just drop it and pray that he isn't on call? I'm sorry i hope that the bad Dr isn't on call for you either.

You could bring it up, but there's really nothing that can be done about it.  Unless Dr was emotionally abusive or made sexual / racial / religious / etc comments there's not much that can be done other than pray he's not the one there at the time!

sturgeje

the practice i go to is the opposite for me.  i like all of the male doctors, but their female doctor always has a little bit of an attitude that doesn't sit right with me.  however, the last time i had an appointment it was with her and everything was fine.  i'd cut him some slack and give him a chance-- he may surprise you.  if not, can you ask them not to schedule you with him?

ceyda79

sturgeje:

the practice i go to is the opposite for me.  i like all of the male doctors, but their female doctor always has a little bit of an attitude that doesn't sit right with me.  however, the last time i had an appointment it was with her and everything was fine.  i'd cut him some slack and give him a chance-- he may surprise you.  if not, can you ask them not to schedule you with him?

I have nothing against male Dr's, i had one for years and loved him! Was very sad when i moved to another city. My husband didn't like this Dr's attitude either, he said he completely understands my discomfort with him handling the delivery. I only need to see each Dr once so i won't have to see him again unless he's the one on call in April :-)

jelly_bean8787

ceyda79:

sturgeje:

the practice i go to is the opposite for me.  i like all of the male doctors, but their female doctor always has a little bit of an attitude that doesn't sit right with me.  however, the last time i had an appointment it was with her and everything was fine.  i'd cut him some slack and give him a chance-- he may surprise you.  if not, can you ask them not to schedule you with him?

I have nothing against male Dr's, i had one for years and loved him! Was very sad when i moved to another city. My husband didn't like this Dr's attitude either, he said he completely understands my discomfort with him handling the delivery. I only need to see each Dr once so i won't have to see him again unless he's the one on call in April :-)

 

Reading all of this makes me feel so much more comfortable with the fact that my Dr. will come in to deliver my baby, even if he isn't the one on call.  I guess I really am luckier than I thought, he will sit with me for a long time if I have questions, and doesn't keep me there forever if I dont have questions.  Hope everything turns out well for you ladies

jacquelinethorne

I delivered DS1 with the only man in my practice and he was awesome. I just started going to that practice for that specific pregnancy, so I wasn't overly familiar with any of the doctors. Now I've been seeing a younger woman in the practice and we love her. She induced me on her on call day with DS2 and stayed at the hospital until I delivered and I'm hoping that no matter when I go into labor with #3 she'll be willing to come in and be with us. I'm not totally crazy about delivering with either of the other 2 women in the practice.